Well they say that the best time to have a second child is either straight away ( hard yes) or leave at least a 3-4 year gap to avoid sibling rivalry. The worst time for sibling rivalry is when the first child is about 2....or so I have read.
My baby is going to be 15 months when our second one is born. I have no doubts that it will be hard but I think they will get on better and there will be no issues about sharing etc as they will have always had each other. Max, My first is really independent already!
Its up to you in the end, do what you feel best. x x x
i had a four year gap between my two sons and it was really good cause he was older and could understand a little more than a baby could but then i realised that they won't realy have much in common cause as soon as my second child starts school my first will be moving on to secondary school although this is good for them to build up there own independance and friends i don't think they will be close so i think a little gap in between is better than a big one and thats why i have decided to have another baby asap lol
i had a four year gap between my two sons and it was really good cause he was older and could understand a little more than a baby could but then i realised that they won't realy have much in common cause as soon as my second child starts school my first will be moving on to secondary school although this is good for them to build up there own independance and friends i don't think they will be close so i think a little gap in between is better than a big one and thats why i have decided to have another baby asap lol
hello. there is 11 months in between my two. it is very hard sometimes, do you have plenty of people to help you?
i wouldn't change having my 2 this close though, they will grow up hopefully being the best of friends and will always have someone to play with. it'l be so lovely for them.
the only person who said we should'nt of had them this close is my partners mum. only because she had a 5 year gap and so did her daughter. my partner and his sis arn't close though and me and my sis wer never close either and there is a 6 year gap between us.
have your kids when you wanna have them i say, only if you think you can manage and have a bit of help though!!
hi there there is about an 15 or 16 month age gap between all of mine and i have four they all sort help each other grow up much quicker than a usual baby by himself would so i would recommend you have them closer together but the decision is up to you x
Hi, i have two girls and one on the way, there is going to be 3 years between all of them, which i find ideal. My eldest is in school already and my youngest is starting pre school just before the baby is born. I dont think there is any problem having babies close together as long as you can manage it.I would rather that than a big age gap. I think 2-3 years is perfect as they all have there own things to concentrate on and are more independent. I also have quality time with each of them doing the things they like. good luck
Hi, our son, Jackson, was born in march, 5 weeks early, when our daughter, Kimber-lee was just over 10 months old. It was a shock at first, especially when Jackson was in hospital for just over a month, but now he is 6 months old and has calmed down and is a bit more settled i love having them so close together. They play together well and Kimber-lee was too young to really remember that he wasn't always around, she hasn't had to get used to him, he's just always been there! It was really hard work in the beginning, especially cos he was early we weren't quite ready for him, it was like having twins for a while, neither walking, feeding themselves or amusing themselves! I wanted to cry some days, they didn't sleep or feed at the same time, i was on the go non stop day and night. We didn't plan them so close together (breastfeeding is not a trustworthy form of contraception!) but we'd wouldn't change them now! They are our little angels!!!
My husband would have loved 2 children close together, but at the time, for various reasons, I didn't feel I could look after 2 babies/toddlers so it was postponed. For a lot longer than either of us anticipated - my son is nearly 13 and our little girl is due in 4 weeks! Everybody seems to think I'm mad starting all over again with a baby after so long and at my age (I'm 38 so not that old!), but I'm really looking forward to it - I know that my son is old enough to help out when needed, hopefully there won't be any sibling rivalry/jealousy as there would be with a much younger child, my son is old enough to amuse himself while I'm busy feeding/changing the baby so won't be demanding as a toddler would, and he's old enough to make me a cup of tea when I need one! I'm hoping that my labour this time round will not be as traumatic, and I think I've got more patience as I've got older. I know that most people choose to have their children close together, but to have a big age gap works for me!!