Hey hun

I know how you feel. I have 2 daughters from previous marriage who are going to be 12 and 10 when my baby is born in April 2010. This is my partners first child ( we been together 5 yrs almost ) and hes frightened hes going to be left behind! Ive told him noooo way cos Im going to need a refresh lol Least Ive got at least 1 baby sitter hehehe xx

i have just discovered i am pregnant for the 3rd time however my 2 boys will be just over 14 years and 10 years old by the time number 3 arrives so big gap! i am a little nervous about "starting again" but have been assured its like riding a bike and it'll all come back to me!!!

My cousin's friend, Sandra, has got five children: Luke, 16, Jaimey, 13, Kaelan, 10, and Rebekkah, 5. Luke is still as protective over his siblings as he has always been. He claims to be looking forward to the day when he can chase off Jaimey's boyfriends. She doesn't seem to be too worried about it. But, even though these siblings are years apart, they all help each other and all of them are helping Rebekkah with her reading.

Sandra said: "With your first two children, I'd recommend having them roughly three to four years apart, so that your 1st child can get involved with the 2nd one (feeding, playing etc...) and, if you want more, having them within one to two years apart (either the 2nd child to the 3rd, or the 3rd child to the 4th) because then you get siblings who can go through the same sorts of things as each other and alwas have them by their side."

I agree, so it's really up to you. Good Luck and please update me so I know how you're doing x

i had 18 months gap between my two boys who are 5 & 6 now, we are now trying for baby number 3 and maybe 4 depending on how well preg and birth go with number 3!!!!!!!

there was 21 months between my girls....never again lol my eldest was still wakin up in the night when my youngest was born ,so i was wakin up for 2,coz we know men have selective hearin wen it cums to wakin up 4 babys lol i was knackerd for the firt couple years i think..not tryin to put u off ,some people prefer to have them close together,but personally i wouldnt do it agen ,but i did have PND after my 2nd so i dont think that helped .......i decided after my 2nd one was born i wasn goin to have another until my yougest had started school,and weird enough,my youngests 1st day at school was the day i found out i was pregnant agen :) theres goin to be 5 1/2 years between my youngest daughter an the new baby ,and 7 1/2 years between baby and my eldest ,good luck with whatever u do,if u decide to have them close toether ,ul cope :) xx

Well it really is upto to make a decision on that as there are plus and negative sides to both. My elder daughter is 6 yrs and the younger one 6 months and they love each other. The best part about this gap is that I was able to adore with undivided attention my elder daughter for 6 years till her younger sibling arrived...Now with the attention divided between the two and the younger one needing a bit more cuddling....I don't feel guilty about the elder one feeling left out...Infact she loves to join in and cuddle her baby sis too...Also the older one is more independent and can handle stuff on her own...so that's lesser stress for me too...So you see every one is a winner here...

hi, i had my baby girl last year in april a month before my son turned 9. at first i wasn't sure how he was going to react to the baby but as soon as he saw her, the look on his face just had so much love for her.he is very protective over her, i'm not allowed to let her cry when he is around lol. its lovely to see him play with her and feed her, when we collect him from school her face lights up just seeing her brother. i wouldn't have had it any other way.oh and the help you get,make the most of it, he feels so grown up.

hi i have a 3 yr old girl and 1 yr old girl and expectin a little boy in august, it is hard work but well worth it, my 3 and 1 yr old play well 2gether, i av enjoyed avin them all close 2gether.