Does anyone else here hate being branded a yummy mummy- I find the term really derogatary yet my husband finds it really funny. I think alot of men think us Mother's sit having coffee's all day long and gossiping. I challenged my husband to spend the day looking after my 6 month old daughter Charli and he was utterley shattered by the end of the day and needed to go to bed early! Sorry but I'm feeling really fummed about this today as I have just re-read Nirpal Dirwali's comment about how much he hates mummy's. At one point in the article he refers to mother's as 'idle hefers' ... wow this guy makes me angry! Have put an extract below so you can see what I mean- (it goes on and on like this) Having coffee at my local Carluccio’s on a weekday afternoon is, in effect, a kind of noninvasive vasectomy. Nothing hardens my resolve to abstain from parenthood more than the herds of posturing yummy mummies who congregate to slurp lattes and share the tedious details of their offspring’s development. I can feel my sperm count falling through the floor just thinking about these idle heifers and their conceited, boring lives. Ahhh- so angry can't write anymore!!!!! Jen

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jestergirl
Reply jestergirl 10 months ago
Mr Dirwali obviously has a lonely life sitting around in coffee shops feeling jealous that he doesn't have anyone to talk to, and has to listen to all the mummy chat!

I've never really thought of the term yummy mummy as applying to me - I just thought it meant all those wealthy West London mums swanning off to tri-yoga and getting skinny in double quick time as they're in the gym/spa while the nanny does all the work. Not me, that's for sure. Anyone sane knows it's hard work - if they don't they're either mad, or they just don't know what they're on about, so can be ignored.

I started leaving R with my husband as soon as she'd take a bottle now and again - made sure he knew EXACTLY how hard work it was!
madmummy
Reply madmummy 10 months ago
well said Greenanna!!! I bet you £100 it won't happen!!!! they can't do anything when they look after the baby, except that.... meanwhile you manage to cook, clean, wash etc and look after your baby. we are amazing!!!
Greenanna
Reply Greenanna 10 months ago
Idle hefers!! I bet his mum was pleased when she read that. My husband definitely thinks I sit around gossiping with other mums all day (ok, I do a bit) but if i've had a hard day with my baby, he'll be cross that dinner isn't ready??? That annoys me, looking after a baby is a full-time job and much harder than my actual job. I can't clock off at 6, have the evening off or take a day off if i'm sick! Once my baby has stopped breastfeeding I plan to leave my husband in charge for a whole day and expect a top notch dinner on the table too!
Jellybeanvic
Reply Jellybeanvic 10 months ago
I'm so glad you brought this up! I have been annoyed by the term ever since I started maternity leave and people assumed I was having a year long holiday! (usually men) I also agree with lazy daisy, by the time I have fed my baby, sterilised bottles, put a wash on of sleepsuits and muslins and rocked my baby back to sleep it's about midday and I haven't had breakfast or had a shower. I live in tracksuit bottoms and don't feel very yummy! I love my new baby and the friends i'm making but it is certainly not a holiday...
madmummy
Reply madmummy 10 months ago
well said Lazydaisy! I agree! I have 2 kids and I find it really hard jsut being a mum. let alone making myself presentable too!
lazydaisy
Reply lazydaisy 10 months ago
I totally agree - I hate that label as it assumes that looking after a baby is really easy and maternity leave is a 'holiday'! Someone in my office said 'it must be great getting pregnant and taking a years holiday' - excuse me! The first three month are hell and as much as i love being a mum, it is not easy. Especially seeing my childless friends going out every weekend while I stay in, again! (I do love it, promise). In my opinion yummy mummys are women who have nannies, don't work and can probably afford cleaners and cooks. if I was rich i'd be yummy, but at the moment i'm happy being a mummy.
katieinhk
Reply katieinhk 11 months ago
I agree too! my husband thinks I socialise all day long! I don't know how he thinks the house stays clean, baby clean, food cooked, shopping done, bed made, ironing done etc. sometimes I don't even clean my teeth before lunchtime - so much for yummy mummy! when do i get the chance to go to the hairdresser or beautician??? ummmm NEVER!!!!!
greenmum
Reply greenmum 11 months ago
Totally agree with you Jen. It drives me mad. I am lucky to get one cold coffee a day. I do love being a mum, but compared to my previous employment (accounts manager for a large charity) it is so hard. If you could be a mum starting at 9 in the morning and clocking off at 5 for 5 days aweek it probably would be easy - but its 24/7 with no days off! What is this yummy mummy thing all about anyway, and where did it come from? I always feel it is another demand for us mums to look good while covered in food, sick and poo!
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