she might fall off a chair but I'll try her on the sofa! thanks for your help and advice. :o)

Temper tantrums are often referred to as, `the terrible twos'. In fact they may begin as young as eighteen months and persist until the age of four. The main problem is the intense frustration children experience at not being able to express themselves as well as they would like. Children are very aware at this age of what is going on around them and they naturally want to manipulate things to their own advantage. When they are unable to make it clear exactly what they want and when they cannot get their way, their anger shows itself as a temper tantrum. Tiredness is one reason, so make sure your child still gets a daytime sleep. Also the anger is directed at you, rather then anyone else. It is best to remain firm and consistent and above all, not to back down once you have made a stand. Giving in to your child will merely encourage worse behavior in the future. Biting, kicking and hitting is not acceptable behavior and this is something she has to know. Try excluding her from doing something when she does this, like putting her on a chair and telling her why she has to sit there. In 16 years of teaching, whenever I put a child on a chair, because of the reasons above, it has worked because no child likes to be excluded and after a while it will sink in. When you do this always explain to her what she has done and that it is not acceptable behavior. Let her sit for 5 minutes then go back and put your arm around her and ask if she ready to play nicely with mummy? If she is, give her a kiss and a cuddle. If she is not, leave her for another 5 mins, she’ll soon get the message. Hope this helps. Susie

My daughter, when she get's told off or has something taken away from her, can have a small tantrum which sometimes involves hitting me in the face. When I change her nappy sometimes she tries to kick me and occasionally she has bitten me. what is the best way to go about stopping this, without creating too much of an issue. At the moment I firmly say no and turn my back to her and wait for her to sweeten up. it seems to work but then she'll try it again. is it a case of perseverence? Thanks again.