Its so refreshing to hear someone who is so concerned for their sons wellbeing over the boyfriend. i know so many girls who have always put the endless string of boyfriends above their children and its so sad. so well done! I was going to suggest having a discussion with him to see where your relationship is going, and if its still a case of going with the flow, just having him around your house when your little one is in bed until your sure its serious but it sounds as if youve already sorted it all out. well done! Good luck with the moving in together! Get your parents to write a letter saying you have to move out, youll move up the list then xx good luck xx

thanks ALOT for the advice. he is serious about us two he's already thinking about moving in together because we both live with our parents i'm trying to get a house but because i'm not homeless the council have put me to the bottom of the list. xxx

My daughter is the same age as your son and to be honest i wouldn't think the picking up and not wanting to go to sleep when your new boyfriend is there, is actually because its your boyfriend and its just because its a new face - someone different to mummy. My daughter is the same when we go to her grandma's and when her daddy comes home from work - not interested in mummy anymore! I understand where your coming from in respects to your son getting too attached but if your that concerned about it going wrong explain to your new boyfriend how you feel about the relationship hes developing with your son and see what he says. At this age i doubt your son would notice after a while if your new boyfriend disappeared off the scene - much less now than when they are older anyway! Also for your boyfriend to take not only you but your 6 month old on as well he must be serious so i would stop worrying about things going wrong and concentrate on making your relationship stronger! Hope this helps Good luck! Sophia X

i really need someones advice on this, I've been seeing this new lad for a while now, but don't want my 6month old to get too attached just in case something goes wrong, he doesn't see his dad at all because he wants nothing to do with either of us, but I'm worried because he keeps wanting my new bf too pick him up whenever he's around, he won't go to sleep when he's there, and he gets really grumpy at me (my son not bf) i love them both id always chose Alfie (my son) over Terence (the new bf) but i just keep thinking somethings going to go wrong. so if anyone has any advice it'll be much appreciated.x