Hi. I dont know if any of you remember the post i wrote last month about my boyfriends mother? Basically cos i didnt get the abortion she tried to force me into she has been making my life hell and turned my boyfriend against me by saying if he came to visit me she would kick him out, telling him stuff like im messing with his head and lied about me by telling him that i phoned her giving her abuse when i didnt at all. Well, its got even worse. She has put it into his head that ive cheated on him and she is demanding that i take a DNA test and she has sed she is going to get the social work involved and get a lawyer cos i will be an unfit mother. I dont know how much more i can take. She has ruined my life. My mum was very angry cos i finally told her everything thats been happening so she phoned my boyfriends mum asking wot she was playing at. Then, she went and told my boyfriend that my mum phoned up saing she was going to smash her face in and she called my boyfriend a scum bag. My mum doesnt talk like that and she DIDNT say any such thing on the phone cos me and my younger sister heard every word in the phone call. Now i know there will be no chance at all of getting back with him even tho i still have feelings for him cos of everything she has done and sed. I dont know what to do. I feel like this will never get better andi have worse to come. I started getting stomach pains last night cos of the stress i was under, i even felt a panic attack come on so i went to see my midwife this morning, im fine tho, i just have to try and stop being so stressed but i know that will never happen. I dont know wot to do.
Hey. Yeah, once a mummys boy always a mummys boy eh? lol. Things have settled a bit now, just couldnt beleive my ears wen she asked for a dna test, very low and just goes to show she will go to any level just to make this alot harder for me. Shes been away on holiday for the past week and since shes been away av been gettin on alot better wiv him, just goes to show that its all down to her and if she was out of the picture things wud be alot easier and calm. Once things settle tho something else happens wen i think its got a bit easier so am just dreading wotever else is gonna go wrong! Heres hoping ive got over the worse.xxx
If its getting worse have u thought about having and injunction taken out on his mum?? I know that sounds so harsh but if its getting really bad then I would. As for your boyfriend, perhaps u should forget about him, as the most important thing is the baby. u really do need to 4get them and get on with your life with u and ur baby.
gd luck
if only we could choose our mother in laws!!!!
sound like the dad of your baby need to find his back bone and stand up his his mother, my ex husband was a mummys boy and thats how it has stayed!! dont worry about being a single mum yes is it hard at times just take each day as it comes i think u will be a wonderful mum!just dont forget to ask family and friends for help from time to time, let your boyfriends mother get the social worker involved you have nothing to hide. with a dna test thats silly but do it let her pay for it too just to prove she has a grandchild that she doesnt deserve to see!!!
you need to rest and stay carm now (easier said than done) enjoy the rest of being pregnant!!
take care xxx
what a bitch!! I dont know how you've been able to keep ur calm, if that was me i would have given my fella the ultimatum between me and his baby or his mom, at the end of the day your moms ur mom but this is his own flesh and blood, he needs to chat to her and tell her to back off. I dont know the situation but if he hasnt already done that hes a coward. No mother in their right mind would be like that to the woman thats carrying their grandchild, she sounds seriously deluded. If shes making threatning calls then id suggest complaining to the police for harressment. What a silly woman, shes the one who's going to miss out on your beautiful baby in the end of all of this x x x
Hey. Thanx for the reply. Hopefully things will calm down. The thing that upsets me most is that my partner listens to her. Shes totally playing mind games. I just found out she has been telling him that if the family split up it will be all my fault, he cant acctually see that shes saying that to get him to resent me. Such a nasty woman. I just hope that i come on here sometime before christmas when im a new mum, read all the messages i have wrote and think to myself 'well, that was a bad part of my life, but everything is brill now. Im scared incase i have to come on here when my baby is born and start writing my worries on the 'newborn' message boards saying that things r the same or even worse.xxx
*fact that her son was growing up and that if she was gonna be like that then she would lose her son altogether, and when she has granchildren she wouldn't c them.
I think that your boyfriends mum needs to calm down and see that there is a life in the middle and that her actions aren't gonna help. Also she should no that kids dnt come with a handbook telling u wot 2 do.
Just leave her to calm down, then when the baby is here i thnk u need 2 sit down and talk 2 ur boyfriend. U'll make a gd mum, and if u need anything ur mum is there and we are all here too, all you need to do is ask. Good Luck hun xxx
Hey,
I know kind of how you feel. Me and my fiance have been through the same thing with parents etc. Last april my fiance took me to go and meet his mum who lived in Scotland for the 1st time. While were there we got engaged and on the nite of our engagment she just went mad. She and her husband were telling my fiance that I was a cow and calling me all the names under the sun i felt like rubbish. any way we came back home and she called my mum slagging me off and all my family off left rite and centre. My fiance's dad and stepmum also got involed and they were the same. Anyway me and my mum had nothing 2 do wiv his family, and it has only been in the last few months that I've got on wiv his mum n stepdad. What made her come round was the f
yes i remember ur last post! that woman is awful! u not wot id do, id go down the police station n log a complaint of harrassment or even get an injunction put on her so that she has 2 leave u alone! shes evil! i really wldnt ave anything to do with them, it must b so awful for you, what a terrible thing to be goin thru! xxx
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