he finks i am lazy !!!

oh god hun sound like your having a real bad time, i had my first child at 18 and know how it feels to be a young mum, my ex was like your bloke he would moan that the washing wasnt dont his dinner wasnt ready etc i had a full time job too!!! in the end i had to talk to him yes it leads to u shouting but that what he needs. have you and your fella had an evening out since you had the baby maybe you should try that, because once you become parents your life become routine your only young ask a family member to babysit and tell liam your going out with him or with ure mates.

hi there i kno exactly how u feel him sayin he goes to work is a lame excuse....his a dad n needs to face up to his responsibilitys,men jus dnt undastand wat its like....lookin after a baby is a 24/7 job atleast wen u go out n work u can count dwn da hours n look forward to a day off,wen lookin after a baby u gota do EVERYTIN all day AND night for that child,u dnt kno wen u gna get a rest,i cnt rememba da last time i ad a descent nites sleep coz evevn tho babys asleep i still wory n gota b in a light sleep all time,my partners the same....but i ad to av a go out him at first to help more wiv the baby,but its the attention i want frm him for me wen babys asleep that i dnt get jus to feel wanted n loved by him n appreciated....i came to da conclusion dat men r jus selfish,but u do need him to help wiv ur baby more....speak to him hes got responsibilitys its his baby aswell,i jus put da baby on his lap n go run a bath or jus put baby in front of him n walk out da room,he wnt av a choice but to deal wiv baby then lol jus lock urself in da bathroom for 20mins lol....i sound like i dnt enjoy lookin after my baby but i do i love my son to bits n wouldnt change him for the world i planned havin him n LOVE been wiv him,ur not too young im 20yrs old myself,dnt get me wrong my social life is out da window at mo im wiv my baby ALL the time does get bit much at times but im jus not ready to leave him wiv any1 yet lol x x hpe all goes well for u but he needs to change his ways seriously x x good luck

a mans job is 9-5 a womens is 24-7 but they seem to think that we dont do anything my bf is exactly the same so ur not the only one i feel like screaming alot latley

Hi, I know exactly how you feel my partner was exactly the same. I'm also suffering from PND aswell. Men just don't understand they think that by going out to work that's all they need to do and that we just sit at home all day watching tv. I've made my partner have boy's days with our son where I get to have a day to myself and he realises that looking after our son isn't as easy as he thought!! I've found having PND it's good to talk about how you feel so if you ever wanna chat just send me a message x

My boyfriend is unstoppably lazy, I think I'm just getting used to it, I find the best thing to do is to make sure that no matter how much work I'm doing (I work, he doesn't, we've got a little girl and another on the way and it seems like I do almost all the cleaning and picking up from school) I make sure I have some time for myself as well. As I'm pregnant I can't go out for a drink or as late as I normally would, but I've been swimming a couple of times a week, sometimes I get a comment as I'm leaving but I've forgotten it as soon as I'm down the road! I guess you could talk to him, but I've not found it does much good, it's easier to change what you than what he does and just make sure you spend some time taking care of yourself. I was 19 with my first, there are good points and bad points no matter what your age. As you are 18 you could get money for childcare if you went on a course (from Care to Learn) even a part time one. x

hi there hon! im in similiar position! my hubby is abit lazy! sumtimes i fink he sees his son a work not his son! n iv got pnd 2! try n talk 2 him, or maybe get some1 frm ur family 2 spk 2 him, as sumtimes wen ur tellin him they jus see it as ur avein ago! agree with couples councelling anything is worth a try! it cant do any harm eh!! was he lazy b4 baby was born? hang in there chick! n ur not that young 2 start a family! i no a lady who has a 16 year old daughter n shes jus had a baby! age is jus a num! am sure ur a fab mum!! xxx

I'm not in ur position. My husband did moan at me afew times for not doing washing up while he was at work, and i yelled at him. lol Mind you he has now come into the realisation about how hard it is to look after a baby and do all the housework. It does seem to be a common view that people seem to think that we get a 9month holiday when we have babies!
Have you talked to him about how u feel? Does he actually understand PND and make sure he understands what can happen if untreated and in serious cases? The thing is even if he thinks u were too young to have a baby(and if he feels that way maybe he should have thought about it BEFORE getting you pregnant) the fact is it happened and you've got PND and if he loves you he needs to support you and help you get better. Also i know personally if someone said to me that maybe i shouldn't have had my baby, i would find that very hurtful so if you feel that way you should tell him because if you hold a grudge against him in your heart it might eventually split you two up anyway.
If talking doesn't work what about leaving him with the baby for afew hours so he knows what its like?
Or when your baby needs changing/feeding busy yourself with a job that needs doing immediately (drop a lasagne on the carpet lol) and get him to do the change/feed. When he has done it tell him how well he has done it.

I has been 8 months so you may have tried these things. It you're at the end of your tether maybe you need to take him to couples councelling? That way he will realise how serious this is getting and he will have to listen to you.

hi , i am getting really annoyed with my partner liam he finks i am lazy i do every thing for him he only has to go out and work and he thinks hes got the hardest job in the world he dosnt even help me on weekends he finks coz hes been at work all week he dont have to do anything !! i clean i cook i look afta are 8 month old baby i dont mind doing it all its just i have no social life he comes home ant makes a mess i tell him to pick up afta him self but he turns round and says it gives you somthing to do ... like i do just sit round on my arss all day .. i dont think so i make his tea every night i make his dinner for work .. he dosnt even feed are son he says i carnt do it as good as you and as for nappy changing if its a poo he wont do it n i have to moan at him just to change his nappy .. dont i ever get a rest NO .... i say to him can i just got relax in the bath and hes go's all moody im like nerly pulling my hair out !!! ... and i have postnntal depresson and he is really helping me isnt he ... i have been to the docter about my depresson and he turn round and said its because i have had the baby to young .... im 18 years old yes it is young but i wouldnt change any thing for the wolrd i just would like more help over wise its going to split me and my partner up !!!! i feel like screamin !!!!