routine not working

Some babies slip easily into routines and some do not. Its about a 70-20 split and pretty much the luck of the draw. Most babies around the world sleep with their mothers- for babies who wake frequently its probably the best way for parents to get a good nights sleep. I found I had no more trouble getting my daughter into her own bed at about 14 months- she slept with us most nights- than my older son who slept - and woke every two hours-in his own cot from birth- and I certainly felt more human when my daughter was small. The key to falling asleep is a consistent routine. For a child who finds it difficult make the distinction between day sleeps (short) and night sleeps (long) clear. Day sleeps are on the sofa in the light, night sleeps in the bedroom which is completely dark. Keep parting brief- say goodnight, then leave. If you sit with her this will become part of her #go to sleep# routine and she will need to get back to sleep if she wakes . If you check every time she cries she learns what to do when she feels alone - she cries to get you to her side. Its the only way she knows. Everyone wakes 3-4 times a night- if we know how to put ourselves back to sleep we do, The key to getting babies to sleep through the night is to teach them how get to sleep without us. Don't make a sleeping routine that requires you by her side. Changing babies habits is hard. Leaving her to cry for a few nights works PROVIDING you do not give in and check every 10 minutes. Walk away and stay away otherwise you just teach- if you cry long enough someone comes. So the world's way is for babies to fall asleep in our arms- at least if they wake after we go to bed The other way is a quiet dark room (nothing to distract) say goodnight and walk away.. Don't hang around wondering- she will soom learn how to put herself to sleep. It may take 4-7 nights of tears- its a hard week but only a week Dorothy Einon

I agree with nel- my son was in a routine at 7 weeks, he was down by 7pm but my second child was far more difficult to get into a routine, she was six months before she consistently stayed asleep. I used controlled comforting (staying by the cot and patting) and some days were easier than others, it was definately hard work but in the end she did fall into a routine and now she usually sleeps all night. My advice to you is to do what you feel is best for your situation. If you want her in bed with you then that is fine, trust your instincts as a parent as you know your child better than anyone and you know what works for you better than anyone. She is still really little and they dont stay that way long. She will do it in her own time, forcing baby into a routine will only cause you and her to become stressed and miserable, gently coax her and continue as you are and i am sure that before you know it she will be fast asleep by 7 and stay there for at least a good portion of the night - good luck

I hate to say this. I have two children - 2.5 year old girl and an 11 month old baby boy. Every child is different, and you mustn't have expectations about them falling into a routine. You can try but don't expect. My little girl was a an angel and at around 12 weeks she was following a day and night routine, but it too my little boy 6/7 months to get there. Once you've got routine - it goes out the window when they teethe by the way. Teething gel/ powder/ calpol might work. When it comes to teething you just have to go with it and try to get your sleep during the day. I'm going through another wave with my little boy, but he slept through without any need for gel etc. last night. Bliss, especially as I'm at work today. Once they get to 4 months try not to have them sleep in the bed with you - unless they're not well and need a cuddle. They're too big and you'll be worried about the rolling off the bed amongst other things.

Ive been tryin 2 get my 20 wk daughter into a routine ov bath bottle and bed for 7 but like u its not workin she wakes up teethin we give her teethin gel an that sometimes works, but even on a gud day she will go to bed wake after 10 - 15 mins so u av 2 keep runnin up and down stairs to give her her dummy bk an aft5er bout an hour she will go to sleep an stay there until her nxt bottles due

nooooooooo! Don't put her in your bed unless you've decided to co-sleep. You will be making it harder for yourself in the long run. She will expect to come into your bed to sleep.
How long do you let her cry for? I am doing control crying with my baby. Shes not too bad and I realise some peoples babies will scream for 40mins-1hr. I wait 5 mins then go and comfort her, not picking her up just shushing, stroking her head, singing quietly and used to give her a dummy too but she refused it now. If she cries as i walk away or while im gone i wait another 5 mins. Takes me 15-20mins max. Sometimes she goes off with no problems though.

my baby is 15 weeks and i give her dinner between 5- 5.30, give her a bath at 6 and put her down between 7-7.30. but somedays she just wouldn't sleep.she will have a sleep for 15 to 20 min then wake up and just cry.so now we have decided to put her in our bed somedays so we can get some sleep.any ideas will be helpfull.