Well I think we should all remember that we are only hearing one side of things here. Men get very stressed and feel under enormous pressure as well. If I was you I'd stick with him, try to be extra nice and see if things change when the babys born. I went through a very bad patch with my man, but stuck at it and things are better. Remember your hormones are up the spout as well, so you may not be thinking rationally. My advice is give the guy a chance to improve his behaviour, and only leave if you are really unhappy and sure that things arent going to get any better.

I'm sorry to say but i completely agree with everyone else' comments, he sounds like a complete b**stard. I know its harsh hearing all this but you would be better getting rid and looking after your baby on your own. Once the baby is here you wont want to be having sex every night, i can only manage once a week and my little boy is 1!!!! Its very hard to get back to feeling good about yourself after the baby is born cause your so tired and looking after baby becomes no 1 in your life. He has no right to say anything about your weight in the first place, cheeky pig!!! Dont feel sorry for him cause he's quitting smoking so are you and you've got twice the reason to be touchy then you've got hormones on top. Dont let him rule you or keep putting you down. As for the cheating if he does its his loss but maybe better for you so you know where you stand as you could do without the stress. He sounds very gutless and a coward to be picking on a pregnant woman, tell him if he wont talk to you without shouting at you then wats the point of being together, its all about communication and for the passwords change them all, we all deserve our privacy and he has no right to look unless you want him to. Save me as a friend if you need to chat more xxx good luck xxx

darling your man is a complete twat,, if thats the way he is it isnt good for u or your bump. wouldnt u be better off on your own than always feeling like shit.. you dont need the hassle.... take care and dont keep taking the shit you and bump deserve better.

How Confused must you be feeling? This is one of the most life changing things you'll ever go through and its a time when your partner should be supportive of the changes your going through. How was he towards you before you became pregnant? Is it possible that he feels a little threatened about the pending birth of such a hughe responsibility?

What ever the situation, its obvious that something needs to change. You need to assert yourself again. Im not saying that you should Become controlling that would only make things worse. Ask yourself, what do i need from him, How do i feel about the way he treats me.

If he is making your already vulnerable situation worse, would you be better off doing this alone, with the support of your friends and family?

I hope you can work through this... good luck x

Sounds a bit like he's trying to pick a fight and get you to do the hard work of breaking up with him because he's too gutless to be honest and break up with you - I guess because he knows it's pretty low to dump your pregnant girlfriend but is too stupid to realise it's not actually any better being such a nasty bit of work that you're not really left with too many choices.

Also, don't be too grateful that he's buying stuff - if it's his baby then you should expect him to do that.

Try and think about friends or family who might be supportive? Good luck whatever you decide to do, I know it's always more complicated than it seems....

hi honey.i hope your feeling beta.im gonna be really honest with you here and i am really sorry if i ofend you.i think your bloke is a complete bastard.arrogant,ignorant,self centered,immature and a serious control freak.hes got alot of growing up to do before your little angel comes along.
i really dont know how to say this but yes i think your bloke would cheat on you too from the sounds of it. i know i dont know him but he sounds like hes tryin 2 relive some sort of pathetic youth going out with his mates like that,lying to you.going on about sex,what a twat.you qill have just done the most painful thing a person can do and most amazing thing i mite add,n hes talkin bout sex!!!i know this hard love but he needs a short sharp shock,if it were my bloke id tell him to ship up or ship out,n if he didnt id kick him out.you never know,kickin him out mite make him realise what he stands to lose and he mite grow the hell up. i really am so sorry for being blunt hun,just think you and baby deserve so much better and believe me,i know wot its like so your not alone,if you ever want a chat then please add me and well talk sum more.i hope everything works out the way you want it too and that you and baby are happy,you deserve it
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Hi, Sporry you feel this way, but you need to start wearing the trousers again, firstly it sounds as though your partner needs to grow up, you have a baby on the way and that one will be hard enough to look after, you dont need to be wiping his butt to. If my husband spoke to me like that id buy him the plastic sex toy and a spare bed and tell him where to stick it(sorry for the pun). You need to explain to your fella that at the moment you feel insecure about yourself as it is and his remarks are not helping you. Has he been to any of your MW appointments with you, if not get him to go as it may make him a bit more understanding. Hope this helps but dont feel as though you should not say anything, it sounds as though he may be feeling a bit insecure so is acting out. Good Luck xx

Hi everyone just needed to have a bit of a rant and could do with a 2nd opinion, the last few weeks my boyfriends just made me feel like shit. Im 21weeks pregnant and hes always going on at me and putting me down, or making stupid remarks. He's always moaning about sex, sayin that i never want it so hes going to buy a plastic sex toy an use that instead, the thing is i havent gone off sex but he jst thinks he can go straight into it and i'll b up for it which isnt the case at all. He's also moaned before saying its not going to fit after ive had the baby which i found a great confidence boost.He's also said that if we wasnt to have sex for a whole year he'd just dump me and go have sex with someone else. Ive explained to him that i wont exactly b up 4 it straight after giving birth and hes said he understands, but hes still moaned a little bit about that aswell. Earlier I mentioned something about i saw a pregnant lady with an unusual bump, because it just looked like someone had placed a basket ball under her top because the bump didnt seem to graduate at all from under her bust, he said well if u have a trim figure its going 2 b like that rather than if u was quite chubby before it graduating and being all over. Up until now i thought id been quite lucky as i hadnt put any weight on other than on my bump and my boobs so i said well what was i like before i was pregnant? to which he said 'well i'd said before ud put a bit of weight on, no need 2 take the hump tho'. I wouldnt mind except hes not exactly f*ckin brad pitt!!! Plus he comes from a family who are all seriously overweight and have health problems because of it. Hes made digs at me before saying that i just eat rubbish all the time when he eats nothing but crap, every meal contains chips or something fatty, where as i eat proper cooked meals. Ive also had a big thing with trust, when we 1st got 2gether he lied 2 me 3 times about sumthing 2 do with his mates, it wasnt anything big like he was lying about another girl it was jst about his friends, but i still found it quite an issue that he'd lied 2 me. I recently found out that he'd hacked in to me a year ago and knows all my passwords for everything, he told me his once revealing me this, only to change his password a couple of days later. This got me really angry as i just thought it was sneaky yet he couldnt see what he'd done wrong and that i was being stupid for 'trying to start an arguement over a website' saying i was pathetic and i had nothing else better to do thats why i was having a go at him. He keeps having terrible strops and i feel i cant talk 2 him about things when hes pissed me off because he jst turns it around saying im trying 2 cause trouble and then he'll go home saying he doesnt want 2 spend a weekend arguing, i dont want to argue either i just want to talk and sort things out but he can never see anything wrong in what hes doin. Lately ive tried not to mention anything and ignore him when he's being offensive or stupid because i just want us to get on but theres only so much i can take before i want to smash his face up a brick wall!!! When ive tried 2 talk 2 him he jst blames it all on him trying to quit smoking, yet im trying to quit too plus ive got my hormones from being pregnant which makes me feel like crying for no reason or wanting to lash out at anyone that gets me angry but i manage not to do any of these things unless im on my own. I feel really bad because he can be really great, im not working so he's paying for loads for the baby and the house we'll b moving into and sometimes he can b so sweet but then he lets himself down when he does all these things. I dont kno if im just over reacting and should just get on with things and blame it on my over active hormones! All these things r jst really getting me down and im starting to get scared of the thought of him cheating on me, deep down i think i kno he wouldnt but i cant help feeling like theres a chance he would. Before i was pregnant i called the shots and i wouldnt stand for any crap off anyone, but now i feel so vunerable. Any advice or opinions off any1 would be really appreciated, but please be honest i wont take any offense!! sry for the rant! x x x