Find out im pregnant at about 5weeks gone. No questions asked, im getting an abortion. Not given the option to think about wot i wanna do. Then his mum finds out. She makes sure the appointment is booked for me to stop my wee boys heart. I chicken out, finally get the bottle not to let people force me into making the biggest mistake of my life. The day i dont show up at the hospital his mum phones me calling me a slag for not goin thru wiv it etc. I get abuse from him then ignored for a while. Weeks go on... ive been called every name under the sun, get told im not cared about and they dont care wot happens to me. While all this is happening im in an empty temporary flat myself wiv nobody close to talk to. Every day is the same. Wake up, watch tv, cry, go to bed! I get my 1st scan and everything starts to feel real. I get bak on talking terms wiv the dad who i was wiv for over a year and loved to bits. We were great before all this happnd, thats why its hit me so hard. His mum hates the fact that we r getn on so tells him to stay away from me. She tells me she is gonna get a lawyer and fone social services on me cos im gonna be an unfit mother, tells my partner he shud get a DNA test, tells him if their family splits up its all my fault and gives him hassle and tells him he has to live wiv all this hassle cos of me. Obv doin her best to get him to hate me. After a while we start talking again. He starts coming bak to see me. We get on the way we used to wen were together, we have a laugh on the phone and i start to feel a bit less stressed. But then all of a sudden im all the names under the sun again! Why? Cos his mum is giving him hassle again. She tells him me and my mum phoned her up giving her abuse and calling my partner scum! Did that acctually happen tho? NO WAY! He went on holiday for 2weeks, hes just came bak and i got a little paranoid that he had maybe went wiv someone else. I dont think he did tho but wiv the way i am just now im just waiting for the next horrible thing to happen to me. That started off our next argument. Our worse one :( Im now over 7months pregnant, depressed, scared and lonely. Want him to be there so much. Had to get all my shopping in for the baby alone. Totally shattered as u can imagine! I dont know wot to do cos i dont know anyone and i cant put the cot and stuff up myself. I dont want me and him to be over. He told me a few weeks ago he still likes me. A coupla months ago he sed he tried to hate me but he cudnt really cos i was his first love and he wud never forget that. I need him. Before i met him my life was a real mess and he picked me up and made me happy again. The happiest ive ever been! I dont know wot to do. I know i have so much hassle and heartbreak in store for the future. Scares me so much. Dont know wot to do :(
hey hun, im really sorry for the way you are being treated, do you kno why she has so much hatred? she sounds like quite a nasty person, and sounds as tho she is never satisfied and always wanting controle, that is really the wrong way to be, she must be a misrable selfish person to treat another human like that, how old is your bf/ex bf? she might so angry because of his age aswell, tho thats NO factor to treat someone, shes obv doing everything she can to keep yas apart, for aslong as his mother has a huge part in his life, meaning having a big control over him, shes always gunna get him into the way shes thinking and thinking shes right, the only way he can escape that is if he stands up to her, and yas both have a heart to heart on wot yas both want, and the most important thing is to listen to eachother, i can imagin this is so hard for you, but the last thing you want in trouble and stress when the baby is born, remember its not the babys falt, and that child will adore you with all its little heart, your his mummy and he needs you so much, so even if you do have to cut ties with your bf, you concentrate on whats more important, the baby, it seems no matter what she will try to cause trouble, and i think she is really really selfish to try and push you into having an abortion, i kno i cudnt if i was you, you do right, and dont let anybody tell u different, we are always here on gurgle to help, so when eva your feeling down lonley or anything we are here to help and advise, we will try our best, how about your parents how are they been??
Hey. He's 21 (22 in a coupla months) His mum has told him that thats his life over cos of me but at the end of the day, they r rolling in money! He has been on sooo many holidays, done sooo many good things in life and when the baby is here it will be me who is the main parent, not him. He wont have to be there 24/7, thats my job. He can still do wot he wants while im carrying the baby so they r so full of shit. Its cos she told me wot to do and i wen against wot she decided but it wasnt her descion in the first place. She has a life and she had a choice when it came to her pregnancies so why shud i take orders from her?! I will never blame my wee boy for any of this, i know its not his fault at all. Its just a shame that he is totally unwanted but when he is born and is growing up that bitch will prob make out she is such a good granparent to him. I know it sounds bad but i have kept a diary since the early stage of my pregnancy detailing everything thats shes sed and done and if she keeps treating me like this then i will thraten to pass it on to my wee boy when he is old enuf. I wudnt acctually do that tho cos i wud never wanna hurt my son like that but im hoping a threat like that gives me the upper hand and shuts her up. I wanna be in the driving seat for a change. My mum knows about everything but wen she phoned and try to be an adult about it my partners mum went and told him my mum phoned up giving her abuse wen she deffo didnt cos there were a few people there including me during the phone call. She is a nutter lol. I just feel like giving up all the time now but i obv cant cos ive gott be strong now. Its just such an effort to get out of bed in the morning :(
hey hun, im really sorry for the way you are being treated, do you kno why she has so much hatred? she sounds like quite a nasty person, and sounds as tho she is never satisfied and always wanting controle, that is really the wrong way to be, she must be a misrable selfish person to treat another human like that, how old is your bf/ex bf? she might so angry because of his age aswell, tho thats NO factor to treat someone, shes obv doing everything she can to keep yas apart, for aslong as his mother has a huge part in his life, meaning having a big control over him, shes always gunna get him into the way shes thinking and thinking shes right, the only way he can escape that is if he stands up to her, and yas both have a heart to heart on wot yas both want, and the most important thing is to listen to eachother, i can imagin this is so hard for you, but the last thing you want in trouble and stress when the baby is born, remember its not the babys falt, and that child will adore you with all its little heart, your his mummy and he needs you so much, so even if you do have to cut ties with your bf, you concentrate on whats more important, the baby, it seems no matter what she will try to cause trouble, and i think she is really really selfish to try and push you into having an abortion, i kno i cudnt if i was you, you do right, and dont let anybody tell u different, we are always here on gurgle to help, so when eva your feeling down lonley or anything we are here to help and advise, we will try our best, how about your parents how are they been??
Good for you not being pushed into something you didn't want to do. Its probably gonna be like this with your exs mum quite a lot but hopefully if she ever sees your baby her cold heart might melt and love her grand child unconditionaly. If not its her loss cause how can you not love a sweet tiny innocent baby!!! she must have a mental problem!!! The only way you can live a happy stress free life is if you get your ex to stop being a mummies boy and choose to make his own decidions without her influence. If it comes down to it might you be better to cut all ties with him and put all your energy into being a mum, which you will be brill at. I know its easier said than done to let go of the one person you really love, but if he is always going to be on mummies side and let her influence him the way she has been doing do you really want to be with that person??? always letting her make the decisions for him. Havent you got family around you who can help you with all the baby stuff ie mum, dad, brother, sister, uncle or cousin etc??? If you want to add me as a friend.
Find out im pregnant at about 5weeks gone. No questions asked, im getting an abortion. Not given the option to think about wot i wanna do. Then his mum finds out. She makes sure the appointment is booked for me to stop my wee boys heart. I chicken out, finally get the bottle not to let people force me into making the biggest mistake of my life. The day i dont show up at the hospital his mum phones me calling me a slag for not goin thru wiv it etc. I get abuse from him then ignored for a while. Weeks go on... ive been called every name under the sun, get told im not cared about and they dont care wot happens to me. While all this is happening im in an empty temporary flat myself wiv nobody close to talk to. Every day is the same. Wake up, watch tv, cry, go to bed! I get my 1st scan and everything starts to feel real. I get bak on talking terms wiv the dad who i was wiv for over a year and loved to bits. We were great before all this happnd, thats why its hit me so hard. His mum hates the fact that we r getn on so tells him to stay away from me. She tells me she is gonna get a lawyer and fone social services on me cos im gonna be an unfit mother, tells my partner he shud get a DNA test, tells him if their family splits up its all my fault and gives him hassle and tells him he has to live wiv all this hassle cos of me. Obv doin her best to get him to hate me. After a while we start talking again. He starts coming bak to see me. We get on the way we used to wen were together, we have a laugh on the phone and i start to feel a bit less stressed. But then all of a sudden im all the names under the sun again! Why? Cos his mum is giving him hassle again. She tells him me and my mum phoned her up giving her abuse and calling my partner scum! Did that acctually happen tho? NO WAY! He went on holiday for 2weeks, hes just came bak and i got a little paranoid that he had maybe went wiv someone else. I dont think he did tho but wiv the way i am just now im just waiting for the next horrible thing to happen to me. That started off our next argument. Our worse one :( Im now over 7months pregnant, depressed, scared and lonely. Want him to be there so much. Had to get all my shopping in for the baby alone. Totally shattered as u can imagine! I dont know wot to do cos i dont know anyone and i cant put the cot and stuff up myself. I dont want me and him to be over. He told me a few weeks ago he still likes me. A coupla months ago he sed he tried to hate me but he cudnt really cos i was his first love and he wud never forget that. I need him. Before i met him my life was a real mess and he picked me up and made me happy again. The happiest ive ever been! I dont know wot to do. I know i have so much hassle and heartbreak in store for the future. Scares me so much. Dont know wot to do :(
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