I had a really horrible nightmare the other night. I dreamt I was giving birth and it was a boy and the midwives took him away because they heard I wanted a little girl. I woke up in a sweat.... think I am dwelling on this too much. I think I am going to get a 4D scan when I am able to find out the sex, so I can prepare myself mentally. That way I have time to adjust before the baby arrives. Do you think that sounds like a good idea?
Hey! Try not to feel under pressure from ur partners parents, I'm sure that once ur baby is born they will be happy that it is healthy no matter what sex it is! I have a little boy and before i got pregnant i always said i want a girl next time, but now that i am pregnant it doesn't bother me anymore as long as we are both ok, in fact i now think that another boy would be nice as the two of them might be closer! Try not to get ur hopes up for a little girl but it doesn't make u a bad person for wanting one! I'm sure once baby arrives u will love it no matter what!
Karen xx
To have to go through something like this muust be awful- and i cannot imagine how you must have felt- however you are in the "here and now" stage and seems as though you are obviously still yearning for the loss of the daughter you were cruelly denied the bond with. from a womans perspective it is perfectly normal to desire a daughter after two sons- regardless if you have sadly lost one. I know someone who was in a very simular situation as yourself and who had also lost a daughter- but once her baby was gone- she felt so empty and constantly craved to hold her own baby- she did conceive again but this time she had a boy- even though i think she wanted a girl- she did bond with her new son, and loves him very much; she was also told not to try and replace what it was she had lost (once she was pregnant again), but rather to accept the new baby whatever sex it was and to adapt to the new life she was nuturing- what will be will be- and everything happens for a reason.
So i guess it doesnt matter what sex your new bundle of joy turns out to be- accept the sex whatever the outcome, because i'm sure with the love and care you obviously give you other two boys- boy or girl,... your new baby will be very much wanted either male or female. I hope this helps and i wish you everything you dream of.xxxxxx
Thankyou for replying, I was beginning to feel as if I was the only one who felt this way. I know I will love my new baby but I also feel a pressure from my partner's parents because they only had one son and then to have two grandson's I know they would love a grand daughter. Your right what will be will be. Thank you for yor advice.
To have to go through something like this muust be awful- and i cannot imagine how you must have felt- however you are in the "here and now" stage and seems as though you are obviously still yearning for the loss of the daughter you were cruelly denied the bond with. from a womans perspective it is perfectly normal to desire a daughter after two sons- regardless if you have sadly lost one. I know someone who was in a very simular situation as yourself and who had also lost a daughter- but once her baby was gone- she felt so empty and constantly craved to hold her own baby- she did conceive again but this time she had a boy- even though i think she wanted a girl- she did bond with her new son, and loves him very much; she was also told not to try and replace what it was she had lost (once she was pregnant again), but rather to accept the new baby whatever sex it was and to adapt to the new life she was nuturing- what will be will be- and everything happens for a reason.
So i guess it doesnt matter what sex your new bundle of joy turns out to be- accept the sex whatever the outcome, because i'm sure with the love and care you obviously give you other two boys- boy or girl,... your new baby will be very much wanted either male or female. I hope this helps and i wish you everything you dream of.xxxxxx
I am pregnant again with my fourth child and I would really like a little girl. I have two boys already and my daughter was stillborn at 35wks due to a placental abruption. I am feeling really guilty for hoping it's a girl this time, is this normal? I am scared that I am going to be really disappointed if it's another boy. I feel terrible for thiking this way but I feel like I have no control over it. Please help!