i had the same problem with mine, he already had another daughter from a previous relationship so it made it even worse for me. all through my pregnancy he seemed not very interested of course like you he would come to appointments etc. i would argue with him he never bought her anything unless i was there to make him pick something. he was there with me through the birth, which he moaned the chair was uncomfortable for him to sleep on.. (typical) even when she was born he didnt bother. after a massive row he opened up and said he found it hard because she didnt do anything. now she is 14 months and the two of them are inseperable, she loves him more than me and he cant keep away from her..... i think because men dont have to carry the baby and experience the kicking and the body changing they find it hard to realise that there is a change going on. and whith newborn as realy all they do do is eat sleep and poo. men find bonding playing and being sillywith their children , woman are more serious. hope this helps xx

I think you need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend.
I'm sure he didnt mean it the way he said it and probably didnt realise the way you may interpret it.
Your not going to know what he was referring to or be able to put your mind at rest until this is done however much as you want to try and move things away from this and things to go back the way they were before he made this comment.
He has obviously been thinking about this and he has started realising he wont be able to go out as much at least he's realised that you'll need him around.
I know its easy for me to give advice (and Im very grateful Im not in your position at the moment) but you do need to talk to him for him to realise how this has affected you and this isnt a good time to get yourself stressed and worked up.
Perhaps if you dont want to talk to him write a letter to him and tell you can list all your fears and worries in it and then you dont have to worry about getting upset infront of him or it turning into a massive argument without hearing his side.
I hope my advice works and its all sorted soon - take care of yourself!
xxx

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3years now and have always got along 100% and had such a great relationship. My bf is 24 and I am 22, we decided around 5 months ago that we would like to try for a baby, well i concieved practically straight away which was great! however still a bit of a shock as we were thinking this would take some time. Anyway, here I am now 19 weeks pregnant and really happy (and nervous) but my boyfriend now seems not interested in the 'whole baby thing' admitidly he comes to all appointments, scans etc and has bought things when i suggest we go shopping. But last night he said something that really was a bit worrying, he said he now wishes he had waited a bit longer to have this baby as hes going to miss going out with his mates, and feels like hes going to lose so many yeras of his life - I was so shocked I don't know how i didnt just burst in to tears straight away. I try not to talk about the baby 24/7 and make sur we have some 'us' time but when we do decide to talk about the baby,etc he just seems to really not care! im so worried this could be the beginning of the end but on the otherhand I know he is incredibly nervous too and is worried how he is going to deal with a baby, can somebody please enlighten me on this situation, is this just a typical blokes way of coming to terms with a baby? will it be different once he meets baby? please help xxx