With my first born i made all the mistakes a person can one being letting my son sleep in the same bed as me and my partner as he grew we changed his cot around the room to make it easier for him to sleep so he could still see us but he never liked it, Now we have moved into a house this giving him his own room, he is now almost four and sleeps in a proper bed but he will always want to come and sleep with me and my partner, one of us has to settle him at night by laying with him until he falls asleep we used to do this in our room and move him when he is asleep but we have now started settling him in his own room, He now wakes up in the middle of the night and we have to lay with him until he falls asleep he just wants cuddles all the time, i have tried explaining to him that we will give him cuddles any time he wants to but when its bed time, it is time to sleep and if he is to wake up he can have a drink but he must go back to sleep...we are finding this very difficult and it would be just easy to put him in our room, but i feel he is at the age if not passed it to be sleeping in his own room in his own bed. His younger sister (18 months) has no problems if she wakes we give her some juice and her dummy and we can walk out the room and on occasion she will even say bye, she will go back to sleep. (i learned by my mistake) but my son will have none of it..i just don't know what the best thing is i can do, i have tried explaining this as much as i can to him, i have left him in his room crying but he will just come to the top of the stairs...i would shut his bedroom door but he would throw a real wobbler to the point that if you heard that walking past our house you would probably think of calling the police!!!