It is probably a good idea to make even more effort to get him used to being settled by his dad, even if this means a few tears to begin with. It is only going to get harder once you have a new baby and are recovering yourself from an operation. He is much more likely to be upset by everything going on then. You need to make an attempt to be really out of the way if at all possible so that his dad gets a chance to do it his own way. I don’t know if there is a friend you could pop round to see who lives nearby, or just make sure you are in another room keeping quiet, but you are trying to just teach him that there is nothing to worry about and it is fine if his dad settles him down to sleep. If you keep stepping in when his dad is having difficulty, then they will never get the chance to sort out the routine between them. This might be hard on all of you for a few nights,but if you can stick to it really firmly it should pay off-and the benefit will be that you will be much more relaxed looking ahead to the birth knowing you have sorted that out.

if you are going to be in hospital then he will have to get used to daddy putting him to bed i'm afraid! if you have 8 weeks you could either break him into it gently where you set the routine then gradually phase out you and get daddy in! or say daddy does bed-times now and that's it- and he has 8 weeks to get used to it! that way they can find a routine that works for them together and he knows what to expect- he knows you are there in the background so won't be worried! my two year old has been trying it on at bedtime recently so i've had to really put my foot down as she has me in and out her room for an hour every night getting up and down and coming out her room etc! when story is done i take her to bed- she gets one song, we have cuddles and she has to stay in bed- if she gets up i put the baby gate on her bedroom door- it was hard at first- she would sit at the door and cry and i felt awful but you have to stand your ground- i just kept going in, giving her a kiss and putting her back in her bed- not saying anything, she has finally got the hint and rarely gets up now- i make a big fuss of her in the morning if she has gone straight to sleep the night before! hope this helps- there is a thing called the controlled crying method that is used for babies so is just a variation on that really you can adapt it to suit you and your child good luck x

i am due to had an elective section in 8weeks, due to health problems, and i'm expecting to be in hospital for about a week. my problem is i have a 2year old son who refuses point blank to go to bed if i don't settle him. i let him watch one episode of Thomas the tank and read him his fave book but he still wont settle for his dad. anyone got any ideas how to make it a little easier?