Hiya - well i would recomend just firmly and politely standing up to her and say " well id rather you didnt try and feed him now as he isnt hungry. I know you mean well but im his mum and I know what my little one needs but thank you for your input" if it doesnt work then you may have to have a word with your husband and explain how belitleing you find her behaviour and what you need is support. Remember as a mum you ALWAYS know what your child needs more than anyone.

Oh god...I have the fear in me about my MIL's behaviour when our baby is born... She's a little... lets say eccentric to be nice and hard to deal with and can be very overbearing. I'm V worried about how she's going to be around the baby. Any unfortunately she lives in the same city as us and my mum is over an hour away. I think I'm just going to be straight with her, (easier said than done) and be strong and confident about mine and hubby's parenting methods. I'll certainly be coming here to vent any anger she brings though!!! My thoughts are with you all :) xx

hehe! don't worry to much leanne- just do what I do- get rid of the crap she got you and plead ignorance- not that you'll need too coz I've never met a father or father to be yet who even notices these things. an example: my mum in law knitted this vile green cardigan for lil it looked like something baby had sneezed on, felt like brillo pad and was all saggy and weird shape. anyway only nice thing bout it was the peter rabbit buttons, which my mum sewed onto a lovely white cardigan she had knitted coz it was a pity to waste them. sneaky? unfair? whatever! point is lily has worn the new cardigan aleast dozen times and the snot- green one has disappeared and her daddy hasn't even noticed. shows how observant he is- not! to everyone having problems with the OH mum (or dad) just remember this: it'll be you that helps pick out the nursing home one day- bloke probably wont bother!

Glad to see im not the only one with a problem mother in law, my daughter hasnt even been born yet and im already having problems with her frowning about the choices of things ive bought her saying 'well in my day I did this..' and then also the biggest annoyance of her going out and just buying any old rubbish for her, she keeps buying ornaments and tat for the nursery and i dont like any of it! The nursery is only small as is the rest of the house i havent got any space to put all these things (except the bin lol) but my partners going to expect me to put them up or use the stuff shes bought. Ive tried telling her nicely that im quite fussy and have my own particular choices and have even given her a list of things with the EXACT items so that she didnt feel too left out, even tho she did get those things she still went out and bought extra tat!!! Sometimes I feel like a right bitch but it really stresses me out! She hates it if shes bought anything she doesnt like and shes so rude about it, i have my plans of visiting the poundland ornaments when it comes to christmas tho!! My moms was the best advice, when the babys here if she tries to dictate what I should and shouldnt be doing just simply say 'oh they've changed that now you cant do it, its actually quite dangerous my midwife told me' which im sure that will put her in her place! Referring 2 expert advice should hopefully be enough to shut her up. Good luck to everyone with their nightmare mother in laws!! x x x

thank god i don't have a mother in law! gary's mum died when he was 15 and his dads partner is 86 now (gary is 48 and i'm 30, his dad was late having him etc) basicaly she is old enough to be my grandmother and knows it is completely different now to when she had hers. Think if his mum had been here she would have been hard work tho- gary didn't get on with her that well so think there could have been friction, my mum is great tho and would have had something to say if she was getting at me!garys dad said the other day that his mum would have them ruined coz she had two boys herself and lost two girls so would have loved grand daughters! maybe that's what it is for kelly2jenna if she didn't have girls herself? think maybe just tell her as nicely as you can than you don't appreciate her trying to undermine you she might not realise she is doing it and if she does it might make her back off a bit!

My mother in laws is similar but not too bad. If she does something that annoys me I tell my hubby who tells his mum in a nice way but she must know that I have said something. It is their first grandchild and they fuss so much over her. If our daughter falls I tend not to make to much of a fuss unless really hurt and she is straight their with our daughter in her arms.....I could scream, They taught her to climb the stairs!!!! THey place pillows over the edge of fireplace and oh god I wonder how bad she was when bringing up her 2 boys lol

omg do we share a mother-in-law or something?! seriously peter's mum is a bloody nightmare don't think I've wanted to throttle someone so badly before. she's always second guessing me, doing things I've told her to never do and implying I have no idea what I'm doing. my OH is bout useful as chocolate teapot, don't know bout yours, but maybe he can have words? my bloke keeps telling me i'm imagining things which is basically saying I'm a liar. just remember that you have something she doesn't and badly wants- your son all to yourself most of the time and full control (least right now) of how you want him to be brought up. sounds like you gonna have to literally tell her in no uncertain terms to not go against you otherwise as your boy grows up he will catch on that he can play one off against the other. personally I never waste an oppotunity to make my M.I.L look like a total idiot (which she is, so it aint hard or anything).

Hi mums! I have a problem with my mother in law, she just does opposite what I do when it comes to my 14 month son. I just want to enjoy being a mother. But in her eye everything i do is wrong. When I bring my son to her, all she does is find the 'wrongs' and keep on trying to feed him. Even he just eaten..If i say no to something, she would just keep on asking and say it does not matter. Becuse thiat is how she use to do. I try to understand and listing to her. But sometimes is just hard. Any advice?