Hi, I'm 28 and have a 2 year old son, Alfie
I currently work 4 days a week 8.30 - 5.00 which is a strain in general but I have JUST had a meeting with my boss about returning to work for 5 days a week.
I feel awful that I am going to be leaving Alfie all week but I have no choice the price of everything keeps going up, mortgage, electric, gas...... it's either this or just fall completely into the red with no hope of getting out.
Am I the worst mum in the world? I love my son SO much and could cry at the thought of having less time with him to do fun things. I feel like i'm making the wrong decision for him personally but at the same time, I want to keep a warm roof over his head.
Why do I feel so guilty!
Hi Jen,
I know how you feel. I started back to work full time last week and i am hating it. Leaving my little girl is the hardest thing i do everyday. I am a catering manager and it doesnt meet business needs for the company if i go back to work part time - not that they would let me go back part time. I am the same wanting to keep a warm roof over her head. It is the worst kind of guilt ever.
Hi,
I'm writing an article and need to speak to a mum of a baby 6-9 months old who has a nanny, can anyone help? Katie@katiesamuel.com
Katie x
Thankyou everyone for being so supportive! I feel alot better hearing about you all.
I am going to look into Care4, i've never heard of it.
If any of you wish to keep in touch, i am really keen to make like minded friends.
Thanks again for all your supportive comments.
Jen
Hi, I'm 28 and have a 2 year old son, Alfie
I currently work 4 days a week 8.30 - 5.00 which is a strain in general but I have JUST had a meeting with my boss about returning to work for 5 days a week.
I feel awful that I am going to be leaving Alfie all week but I have no choice the price of everything keeps going up, mortgage, electric, gas...... it's either this or just fall completely into the red with no hope of getting out.
Am I the worst mum in the world? I love my son SO much and could cry at the thought of having less time with him to do fun things. I feel like i'm making the wrong decision for him personally but at the same time, I want to keep a warm roof over his head.
Why do I feel so guilty!
JenWren
I couldn't agree more! I have recently returned back to work after 7 months. I had a full-time career as an IT engineer but I have gone back to work part time for 3 days per week for the next 3 months, with a view to returning to work full time. I also work (unpaid) full time for our own Kitchen business, which means that I never really had any maternity leave right from when my son was born. I've put Louis in nursery 3 days a week (7 months) and his Grandparents have him for 2 days a week. Dont' feel guilty - just give him the TLC he deserves on your precious times :)
I am going back to work full time in January when my baby is still only four months old - however as i am the main earner between me and my husband we simply have no choice as we are £1000 per month down just now! What angers me is the government keep saying that they want mothers to go back to work but we have found out that there is very little chance of getting Balian into a coouncil nursery due to our circumstances as we have a low score. Therefore we are going to have to pay £600 per month to a private nursery as we do not have any relatives available to baby sit. It just doesnt seem very fair to me.
Hi Titchybabe
I agree. We get slated if we're stay at home mums and we get slated if we're working mums. We can't win either way. Then we have the choice of stay at home and be skint or go to work and....guess what....be skint still. Rrrrrrrrr. Ros x
Hi Jen I know how you feel. I also go back to work in January when my little boy will be 7months old. I'm very lucky as I have my mum & dad who live nearby who will look after my little one. I tried full time nursey with my 1st child but it was just too expensive i was worse off, so my parents stepped in. I agree the goverment do need to help more especially for those who work part or full time and have mortgages to pay. What annoys me is that my sister in law has 6 children lives in a council house and recieves more money then I do for doing nothing where as I was and will be working full time for less money then she gets. The system is all wrong. I hope all works out for you just be positive.
I am going back to work full time in January when my baby is still only four months old - however as i am the main earner between me and my husband we simply have no choice as we are £1000 per month down just now! What angers me is the government keep saying that they want mothers to go back to work but we have found out that there is very little chance of getting Balian into a coouncil nursery due to our circumstances as we have a low score. Therefore we are going to have to pay £600 per month to a private nursery as we do not have any relatives available to baby sit. It just doesnt seem very fair to me.
Hi Jen. Don't feel guilty. It's an unfortunate (or fortunate depending on how people in general view this) part of the way life is these days. I've always worked so I'm glad to be going back to work next March when my baby daughter is 8.5 months old, but I'll be going back for 3 days instead of the 5 (I already have two other girls). I think it's good for me to earn my own money, be with adults and for Olivia to make friends and learn independence. Have you looked into any benefits that could help you stay working part-time, like working/child tax credits or an employer related scheme like Care4? Depending on how we get on with the lack of money, I may also need to go back full time! Ros