By jojo4182
3 months ago
none of family live that close so no. But i think getting ur OH to perhaps mention calling first to see if its ok, rather than just popping in with no warning (my dad sometimes turns up with no warning and its awful-the house is always a tip! not to mention routines up in the air)
Its nice that he wants to be around u so much but he still needs to respect ur private space and give u the opportunity to turn him down if it isnt convenient, rather than just coming whenever he likes. GL xxxxx
Its nice that he wants to be around u so much but he still needs to respect ur private space and give u the opportunity to turn him down if it isnt convenient, rather than just coming whenever he likes. GL xxxxx
Thanks mama moomin, You have to tread really carfully don't you especially because you don't want to say the wrong thing or cause offense. I know during half term (both my in laws work in schools) they'll be random visits, and as you say on one hand it's nice they want to see their grandchild as it could be the opposite, but we need to establish a happy medium. I use facebook a bit to keep in touch with my other mommy friends and friend who aren't close enough to visit but I find myself restricting what I put these days. If I happen to put on there anything about my LO having a bad night or being ill in anyway, it's my SIL who "reports" to her mom then she starts with the calls, "is she ok, whats the matter, have she been to docs" half the time it's just like a bad tum, or coughing in night even down to restlessness but she sticks her nose in and then its blown up. Don't they realise if something serious was up they'd be told and not via facebook but i'd have the heart to call.
I just get so frustrated with OH fam they try TOO hard and the way they talk about my Lil girl its like they think I don't know her. Sometimes it's like she's not even mine, if we are out and they see anyone they know they whip her off like a trophy and show her off, it's nice they feel proud to do that but as much as she's their frist grandchild, she's also our first too.
I have my mom on hand to talk to but my folks are so different. They pre-arrange visits or call or text if they want to come up. Wish his lot would take same initiative. x
I just get so frustrated with OH fam they try TOO hard and the way they talk about my Lil girl its like they think I don't know her. Sometimes it's like she's not even mine, if we are out and they see anyone they know they whip her off like a trophy and show her off, it's nice they feel proud to do that but as much as she's their frist grandchild, she's also our first too.
I have my mom on hand to talk to but my folks are so different. They pre-arrange visits or call or text if they want to come up. Wish his lot would take same initiative. x
By Mama Moomin
3 months ago
none of family live that close so no. But i think getting ur OH to perhaps mention calling first to see if its ok, rather than just popping in with no warning (my dad sometimes turns up with no warning and its awful-the house is always a tip! not to mention routines up in the air)
Its nice that he wants to be around u so much but he still needs to respect ur private space and give u the opportunity to turn him down if it isnt convenient, rather than just coming whenever he likes. GL xxxxx
Its nice that he wants to be around u so much but he still needs to respect ur private space and give u the opportunity to turn him down if it isnt convenient, rather than just coming whenever he likes. GL xxxxx
By jojo4182
3 months ago
Hi gals, hope no one has had too bad a time with resent weather. Im just in need of a little moment to moan.
Our LO was up about half 1 this morning with her coughing again which is frustrating, mainly for her i imagine. She coughed up phlemy fluid 3 times needing change of PJs and our bed sheets as i was comforting her in our bed.
So i was up at half 7 usual routine for her daddy took her off to do little shop i caught up wirh ironing (2 hours worth).
When they got back she had lunch and we settled her for nap deciding we'd catch an hour to.
Not the case, father in law decides to "pop in". This is now becoming less funny very inconvenient as well as annoying and rude.
My OH now needs to find a subtle way to express this is no longer acceptable. Anyone else gave family who do this regularly? Action is required.
Our LO was up about half 1 this morning with her coughing again which is frustrating, mainly for her i imagine. She coughed up phlemy fluid 3 times needing change of PJs and our bed sheets as i was comforting her in our bed.
So i was up at half 7 usual routine for her daddy took her off to do little shop i caught up wirh ironing (2 hours worth).
When they got back she had lunch and we settled her for nap deciding we'd catch an hour to.
Not the case, father in law decides to "pop in". This is now becoming less funny very inconvenient as well as annoying and rude.
My OH now needs to find a subtle way to express this is no longer acceptable. Anyone else gave family who do this regularly? Action is required.
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