Has anything changed in his home life that might be affecting things? Sometimes helpful to work out why. At his age sticker charts etc can work but only if they are very specific-decide what you want to focus on for eg the screaming or the manners. Have it achieveable as well-asking nicely for say 5 times for 5 stickers over a couple of days earns him a small treat like a pack of buttons. Main thing is whatever you may think 3.5yr olds LOVE praise and don't wait for good behaviour to use it. Praise every tiny thing until you sound silly-good boy you got your toothbrush for mummy, good boy you sat nicely at the table, good boy you got in bed straightaway,good boy you opened your mouth for the toothbrush good boy you gave mummy a goodbye cuddle. Get into habit of saying I love you whenever you can too. Sometimes we can get into a negative rut with our toddlers..Personally I don't agree with taking toys away but I do find naughty step works if not over used. Save it for major bad behaviour like slapping or kicking you, or when he simply needs to calm down. No longer than 3 mins at his age and don't forget to cuddle afterwards. Hang on in there hun and maybe have a chat with your HV/childrens centre-positive play sessions may help him xx
My 3 1/2 year old son's behaviour is out of control, and I'm unsure what to try next. He screams for no reason, he talks back, his attitude is rude and disrespectful and he nevers does as he's asked. I have tried speaking to him calmly, I have tried reasoning with him, I have tried raising my voice, I have tried disciplining him using the naughty step and by taking his favourite toys off him, I have tried rewarding good behaviour with praise and the occassional treat but nothing is making the situation any better.
He started nursery last September and up until recently always behaved really well when he was there, however, over the last couple of weeks when I have gone to pick him I have been informed that on several occassions they have had to have words with him, and have even had to put him in a separate room in order for him to calm down.
I know he is aware that the way he's acting is wrong, and he is always very quick to apologise, however, he sees this as his 'get out of jail free card' and seems to believe that sorry wipes the slate clean but then a minute or so later he is acting in exactly the same way.
I'm at the end of my tether and would really appreciate any advice that anyone can give me, I just don't know what to do next.