Mother-in-laws!Created By sophiegood on 04 June 2008

My mother in law is already very interfering and often controlling with my husband. We're trying for a baby at the moment (which we haven't told her so let's hope she doesn't read this) and I can't imagine what she'll be like once I finally get pregnant. Any tips for managing a controlling mother-in-law once your baby comes along?

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Sswain25
Reply Sswain25 4 months ago
I would be lost without my mother-in-law, she has helped me through some very tough times in my life.
My own parents disowned me when i told them i was pregnant as i was 18 and my bf was 26.
Then my BF had to leave my life for 7 years, through no fault of his own, if any one was to blame it would be me.
So I was 8 months pregnant with no home to speak of. My mother-in-law (who i now call Mum) took me in to her house and allowed me to stay with her until my son Ash was 3.
She has been my rock and i would not have survived the 7 years my OH was away without her. She is still a major part of our lives, we live next door to her and i know she will always b there for me if/when i need her.
jenemlou
Reply jenemlou 5 months ago
rat poison is the only way i can think of to control my mother in law!!! although she'd probably be immune to it horrible woman she is!! I don't think they come much worse than mine! if they do, I feel so so sorry and feel your pain lol she was fine until I got pregnant and had different ideas on how to raise a child than she did! then she started to get awkward, ringing at 11-12 at night, turning up outside at 9 until half 10 with her dogs howling outside waking my daughter up, telling me i was a bad mum because i didnt want to give my daughter chocolate sweets or anything with un natural ingredients or high salt (bacon at 3 months she suggested) she gave her coffee at 10 weeks old and said it was fine because it had no sugar in?? she tried to give her mayonaise on chips at 4 months old?? told me i was a bad parent i couldnt handle her I should have her taken off me. and the best one was she grassed me up for benefit fraud and had my money stopped until they realised it was a load of rubbish. she's a bitter twisted woman with nothing better to do than cause trouble for me. the newest one is that she has added all of my friends on facebook to see if she can get any gossip or cause any trouble for me with them. the woman can't even spell! I was on anti depressants for 2 years because of her... tell me she isn't a complete cow??
Sorry but yes shes a complte cow, however she could be worse my ex mother-in-law phoned police to tell them I was starving delaney as I was making him wait 15 mins for a feed as he was feeding every 2hours & only taking 2oz & thats what HV suggested I do. I ended up with a visit from social services.
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Reply chloe71106 6 months ago
rat poison is the only way i can think of to control my mother in law!!! although she'd probably be immune to it horrible woman she is!! I don't think they come much worse than mine! if they do, I feel so so sorry and feel your pain lol she was fine until I got pregnant and had different ideas on how to raise a child than she did! then she started to get awkward, ringing at 11-12 at night, turning up outside at 9 until half 10 with her dogs howling outside waking my daughter up, telling me i was a bad mum because i didnt want to give my daughter chocolate sweets or anything with un natural ingredients or high salt (bacon at 3 months she suggested) she gave her coffee at 10 weeks old and said it was fine because it had no sugar in?? she tried to give her mayonaise on chips at 4 months old?? told me i was a bad parent i couldnt handle her I should have her taken off me. and the best one was she grassed me up for benefit fraud and had my money stopped until they realised it was a load of rubbish. she's a bitter twisted woman with nothing better to do than cause trouble for me. the newest one is that she has added all of my friends on facebook to see if she can get any gossip or cause any trouble for me with them. the woman can't even spell! I was on anti depressants for 2 years because of her... tell me she isn't a complete cow??
mummybubble
Reply mummybubble 9 months ago
my mil is frustrating she can be kind and loving but only at about 10o'clock in the night when shes had enough to drink to make her nice. she interfears in everything we do well she did we stoped seeing her as often and stoped my son staying with her over night coz she just took over i would feel like he wasnt my son sumtimes and it was very upseting i no i shouldnt bitch but i cant really speek too indepth to my partner about this coz its his mum but she really tiks me off when we do go over ther as soon as we walk frew the door she takes over, she picks my son up and changes him even if im not bisy i no that sounds gr8t but thats not her job its mine especially when im just sat there doing nothing! when he was a few mnths old me and my partner went out for 1/2 an hour and came back to find a dummy in our sons mouth even after we told her he wasnt going to have 1, she would try and sneakaly dip his dummy in her alcholic drink she thought i didnt notice but i did i no i should of said sumthink to her but she makes me feel like im 1mm tall and that i have no choice in what she does with my son. she tells of my partner for buying new things eventho its me that brought them with my money she has a go at him about things ive dun or not dun infront of me but talking to him even tho it has nothing to do with her. once when we stayed ther she came into our room and took our son from in our bed when we wer asleep cos she could hear him talking to himself and she was awake. again i no i shouldnt bitch but i need to tell sum 1 b 4 i say sumthing to her and put stain on her and my partners relationship. sorry 4 bitchen!
Anonymous
Reply Anonymous 10 months ago
My MIL, instead of praising me for giving up all of the things that I need to for the health of my baby (eg alcohol, runny eggs, cured meats etc), was all sarcastic and "Oh how did we cope in our day. When I was pregnant I smoked all the way through, and I'm glad. They're were 9lb 10oz ans 8lb 9oz. Imagine how big they would have been if I hadn't smoked." She shows no interest. Never asks how my appointments go, nothing. I have my 20 week scan tomorrow, and I've told hubby that unless she texts or calls, we don't let her know how it goes. She has a horse and keeps it at a stables, and the owner of the stables announced she was pregnant, so my MIL bought her a maternity top that says "Does my bump look big in this?". She's not bought me anything like that. And it's not that she doesn't like me, I've heard from colleagues of hers that she speaks very highly of me. Thats why I don't get it?
I don't think I'll ever get how they can be either, it's almost like a bit of competitiveness or jealousy from MIL but it means there's a barrier that stops a lot of really good things happening doesn't it?. Sad I think on their part....I hope I never turn out like that with my boy's girlfriend/wife...saying that he's not having any... LOL!

How did your scan go?? Did you get that 'oh my god it's actually real' feeling again? I did at both my scans, in between it just seemed a bit surreal but when you see faces, bodies and movements, wow! xx
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