My baby is only 5 weeks old and it has been a bit of a rollercoaster. We live in China right now and I gave birth here in one of the local hospitals. The experience was not one I will ever repeat. Then the baby got really severe Jaundice and had to be admitted to the NICU for four days. During that time we were not allowed to have any contact with the baby. This is just "the rule" in China. Which meant I couldn't breastfeed. I tried to pump, but with all the stress etc it didn't work. Anyway, to say that we had a bumpy start would be an understatement! I wasn't doing too well either. My confidence was shattered, I couldn't breastfeed, I was really emotional, infact very probably on the verge of a mental breakdown. I think in spite of everything I held it together really well. BUT, my husband has been difficult to deal with to say the least. I realise that it's not all about me, but I was the one who had to go through the pain of labour, stitches with no anesthetic, hormonal changes etc etc etc, and his first reaction was, "well, you're not pregnant anymore so I don't have to take care of you." Which means he can be rude to me, throw tantrums, call me names when he gets annoyed. And the worst thing is using the baby as a weapon. He isn't quite as good at handling the baby as I am, or at least not as confident at it. I try to help, but he won't listen! The baby could be screaming and screaming and he won't listen to me when I tell him how to deal with it, so I end up just taking the baby from him and doing it myself. I mean I'm trying to give him the chance to do it, but he keeps doing it WRONG! But I can't say that coz then he'll be even worse! I have enough to deal with right now with a new baby I don't want to have to spend my whole time soothing his bruised ego.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
I am 31yrs old Having found out i was pregnant last week unbeknown to me as i have endometriosis and had no idea, this also meaning im am unsure how many weeks im am.. i have a son already he's 6yrs old he's fantastic never has paddy's is a fun happy little chap.he's always gone to bed good and slept through from 9months old. anyway on having telling my husband who is 43yrs old who also has a 18yr old from a previous marriage who has also been no trouble and is now at uni after getting multiple A's and A PLUS in her school and college exams . says if he could start his life over he'd have had NO kids and had a nice life??? anyway i have been lucky 2 have had my first child with having endometriosis, and to have caught again without trying is just an amazing miracle, my husbands opinion is he refuses to have yet another child he doesn't want, however he says he can's make my decision for me but if i go ahead he'll be selling the house and starting his life over.???
i am looking for work at the min whilst being pregnant which is gonna prob be a losing battle.. any opinions or advive would be a great helpx
Having children is said to made husbands or boyfriends feel pushed out. It can work both ways. We were invited by hubby's family to a birthday meal today. As one of the children is poorly I had to stay home. That is fine. However, my hubby decided to go shopping and spend some of his bonus on himself and the children. Did i get anything? No. Than he came home with birthday cake for children. There wasn't enough for me apparently. Am i being unereasonable to be put out?