Hi,
I'm a first time expectant mum (26 wks+5 today!) & I'm getting very excited about our new arrival. I'm also a research psychologist very appropriately investigating postnatal wellbeing! I work at the Univerisity of Sussex and I'm currently running an online study looking at women's memories of the birth experience, so if you fancy taking part please click on the link below or copy it into your browser.
http://139.184.162.156/memory_and_birth_study.htm
I've had approx 50 women participate so far & they have all said they enjoyed doing it & felt it was a great opportunity to put the events of the birth into perspective. I need approx another 450 women to take part, so please please please help me out. If you want to check out my research profile to confirm this is a legitimate study please either google me (search for Suzanne Foley, University of Sussex) or look me up on the University website:
http://www.sussex.ac.uk/psychology/profile195907.html
Any questions, please email me s.foley@sussex.ac.uk
Thank you!!!
I have read with amazement, the many fascinating tales of late motherhood. That said, we may be deemed late starters from a medical perspective, but for me personally I have no regrets. My first and only daughter was born November 2006 and in all honesty I never had that earth mother instinct to have children.
Everything happened so quickly for my partner and I,being together 8 years at the time we thought nothing would shock us. Maybe I thought things would take a while (due to long-term contraception), how wrong was I becomming pregnant after our first try.
By comparison, I have a sister who at 21 had her first and only child. She frequently tells me, how she has missed travelling with friends, girls nights out and just doing nothing.
Big up to you all younger Mummys, I am in awe of you and if I had the maturity & selflessness at that age maybe I could have done what so many other young women do.
Being almost 31 when my baby arrived I never regretted not having her sooner. The sleepless nights, worries and gynaecological uncertainties(followng 3rd degree tear & rectal dammage) all hit me head on but I know if I had my daughter at an early age I would have coped very differently with those situations.
Luckily after the physical toll of giving birth I never suffered any depression.
I have never had thoughts of having missed out. I am so glad my partner gave me the courage and that much needed push to just go for it when we did because at routine smear following the birth, pre-cancerous cells were found. Loop excision has removed this and there is the concern of incompetent uterus should we consider having any more, but I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
Who knows what lies ahead, one thing I know for sure, we have been given the most magical little madam who like my Mum and I is my darling best friend.
Hi, I'm 37 and had my baby when I was 36. I had a misscarage four years ago and then found out I had polycystic ovarian syndrome. Last December I gave birth to a lovely boy. We are now trying for a brother or sister for Cian. I had always wanted children but did not think I would have my first in my mid 30's.
I had my first baby (after 3 miscarrages) at the age of 33. I had a bad time being pregnant but i haven't put this down to be an older mum!!
I've always wanted to be a mum and now that its happened its the best job in the world.
Hi all
I'm 37 and had my second child in April (after 2 miscarriages). My first child is 5 and she has been a great help with the baby, but I must admit it was a real shock going back to nappies and now weaning, and sleepless nights.
Dont wish for a minute that I had them any earlier though.