Sunday, 21 December 2014
Jenny Frost: My precious moments
Atomic Kitten turned TV presenter Jenny Frost talks about the joy of watching her son Caspar, six, and 15-month-old twin girls Blake and Nico grow up together
Did you always plan to be a mum?
Yes, I always knew I wanted children at some stage, even when I was young.
How was your pregnancy with the twins?
For the first two to three months I suffered with really bad morning sickness: I'd even wake in the night and be violently sick. Most of the time I couldn't eat at all, then would suddenly fancy something like Yorkshire puddings! But it finally eased so I could enjoy the middle of the pregnancy, but at the end I was so uncomfortable as I was huge!
Describe birth in one word.
What's the best thing about being a mum?
I just love to watch as their little personalities develop and see the three of them interacting with each other. The girls' faces light up when Caspar comes home from school – they get so excited they start bouncing up and down with the most gorgeous smiles on their faces!
And what have you had to give up?
I can honestly say, nothing. I don't go out and party like I used to, but I think at this point of my life, even if I didn't have the children I wouldn't be doing that anymore.
How did you choose the twins' names?
I always thought Nico, who sang with The Velvet Underground, was cool so the name just stuck with me. And Blake came from the fact that I love boys' names for girls.
What's your perfect family day?
I love Sundays. My husband Vinnie won't be working so we might all go out for a walk, come back and have a lovely Sunday roast.
Does Caspar enjoy his role as big brother to the twins?
He loves it. He's constantly trying to make them laugh by playing with them and making silly noises, and is always so chuffed with himself when he succeeds!
Is either Nico or Blake a daddy's girl?
They completely adore him but they're not daddy's girls yet – although I think it's only a matter of time!
What does Vinnie do better than you?
He just manages to stay so calm all the time. Sometimes when I feel myself getting stressed because there is so much to do and I just don't know what to do next, he can just walk in and calmly get things done.
Any embarrassing moments?
The worst would have to be when Caspar was three or four and we were in the supermarket. He wanted the Gator Golf game, so I explained to him that if he was a good boy and got more stickers on his 'good boy' chart, we might come back and get it. This did not go down well and he had the biggest tantrum ever! I was in the middle of my weekly shop so I put him in the trolley seat and carried on, trying to ignore him, but I could feel everyone looking at me, and knew they were thinking 'That's her off the telly!'
What about your biggest panic?
Just last week I was on a zebra crossing with the girls in the pram and some idiot in a 4x4, who had just driven past, started reversing back. I just pulled the girls out of the way in time. If the pram hadn't been so easy to move the car would have hit us for sure. It missed us by a couple of inches. The women on the other side of the road were all screaming – it was really scary.
Do the twins have favourite toys?
Nico's not bothered, but Blake needs Eli – an elephant that was once Caspar's – to sleep.
Is there anything you'd like to pass on to your children?
A fabulous wardrobe! When I look at the pictures of my mum in the Sixties and all the great clothes she wore, I wonder why she never saved them for me!
Have you learnt anything from them?
They've taught me about the simple things in life: to be super grateful that we're all healthy and happy – nothing is more important.
And have they ever shocked you?
A few months ago Vin and I were in bed with the girls and as clear as a bell, in the deepest monster-like voice, Nico said 'Hola!' It was a complete fluke but it was hysterical.
What's your can't-live-without product?
My baby carrier. It's quicker and easier than the double pram when I'm doing the school run: one baby goes in the carrier and I carry the other on my hip.
And your guilty pleasure?
Once the clan is in bed, I like to switch off, cuddle up to my hubby and watch TV with a large glass of red or a huge cup of tea, depending on my mood. There's usually chocolate and cheese involved too!
What advice would you offer new mums?
Expect the worst and it can only be better! I imagined all sorts when I was pregnant with the twins – how I'd manage to feed them at the same time, get them both to sleep and so on. I worried it would all be so difficult, but the reality hasn't been as tough as I imagined it would be, and it gets better every day.
What would you invent for new mums?
Something to de-stress them, because I honestly believe that a stressed mum makes for stressed kids. The best advice I've ever been given is to stay calm, and then the children will be calm too.
Would you like more children?
I'd really love one more but Vin isn't keen, so that's that. But I'm super grateful for the three happy, healthy ratbags I've got! I'm far too blessed to be stressed!
Jenny was chatting to Sarah Sheere at Purée, Cow & Gate's pop-up restaurant for babies