Tuesday, 01 September 2015
Caprice Bourret: My Precious Moments
The model and businesswoman shares how she welcomed her two sons, one by surrogacy, just four week apart
Did you always want to be a mum?
Yeah, but I had to get my selfishness and ego out of my system, and find the right partner (fellow American Ty Comfort), before I had Jett and Jax. It took me a long time to find him – I was 39. But I am so thankful that I waited because Ty is the greatest guy on the face of the planet.
What was your experience of birth?
At the first (nearly two years ago), I was eight months pregnant myself! The emotion in that room was magical. I held our surrogate's hand, and I got to hold my son as soon as he was born. My second was a C-section. I could hardly feel anything from my waist down; I was freezing, in shock and feeling some doctor with their hands up my bits! I couldn't even hold my child for the first few hours, but with my first, I held him next to me immediately and I cut his umbilical cord. It was two totally different experiences within four weeks of each other.
Why did you decide not to reveal which child was born to your surrogate?
When you have children, you'll do anything to protect them, and I think the papers respected that. Of course they were interested, but I don't think it's interesting: they're both biologically mine and I think it's irrelevant. So I won't be telling anyone. I'll tell the kids, though, when they're old enough to understand. It's a great story and it's an inspiration. I'm proud that I was able to share it.
Have you stayed close to your surrogate?
I have – it's because of her that I have two children, and she's a really important part of our lives. She wrote about her experience in my book and I didn't want to change a word. I wanted it to be her voice entirely; not edited.
How do people react to the 'twins'?
When people ask, 'Are they twins?' I can't tell everyone the whole story over and over again, so I say that they are. They do look similar!
Who is your biggest parenting influence?
My mum. I call her all the time asking for her advice. It's hard because she's 6,000 miles away. But a lot of who I am is because of her. Even though my dad wasn't around, I had lots of support, love and good people around me.
Were you given any good advice?
I'm still given advice and, being a parent, you just have to learn as you go. For instance, a lot of my mates were telling me to get the MMR. I did, but I did it separately, which I think was the right thing for my boys as they reacted quite badly to each jab. I do think that it's very important to get immunised.
Favourite thing about being a mum?
Everything. I love waking up early and going into my Jett and Jax's room and seeing them look up at me with their big, huge smiles, and open up their arms because they want a morning hug. Nothing's better.
What's your parenting style?
I think it's important to have the right balance, to be strict, but also relaxed. They do have a routine: they wake up at around 6.30/7am; have their breakfast, then they have a full day's schedule. I don't want them to be too spoiled. Whether we get it right or wrong, we're just doing our best!
What have you had to give up?
I've given up the whole lifestyle I used to have: manicures, pedicures, massages... But I've replaced it with something so much more fulfilling, and I'm so much happier.
Any embarrassing mum moments?
When we're out and they have flatulence – I won't go into detail, but they're stinkers! Every time they do it, they think it's hysterical!
Have you had any panics?
When Jett had his measles immunisation, his temperature shot up to 40 degrees. You feel you'll lose the plot, but you have to stay calm. I put him in the bath to cool him, gave him paracetamol and his temperature dropped fast.
What's the boys' favourite food?
Spinach! They're like Popeye! After they have it you'd think they'd had three candy bars, they have so much energy! Jax is a healthy eater: he loves spinach, kale and sweet potato. Jett loves bread and butter, like his mummy!
What's your perfect family day?
All of us in bed watching movies, I love that! We can probably keep them engrossed for about 20 minutes. We love Dinosaur Train.
What would you like the boys to learn?
They'll be raised with a lot of travelling and, because I'm American, I think Spanish is a really important language to learn. When they're older, they'll learn Mandarin, another important language for the future.
Have they ever seen you on TV?
With one of the shows that I did, Jax looked up at the screen and said, 'Mama.' They don't understand it yet, but they're fascinated.
What would you invent for new mums?
I'm into nutrition for my children. So I'd come up with a food line or a multivitamin so they get the maximum amount.
Talking of inventions, which By Caprice bra will give us the best post-baby boost?
Oh, honey, all of 'em! After having children, we don't have time to work out, and our body changes and we just want something to make us look fab and feel sexy again.
Do you miss your old life?
Parties are the last thing on my agenda now! I can't imagine going out like I used to, till 4am. But I got it out of my system and now I want to be home with my children, going to bed at 9.30pm and getting up at stupid o'clock.
Caprice was talking to Lizzie Catt. My Boys, My Body, My Business, her autobiography, is out on 2 July (£16.99, Blink Publishing).