Precious moments: Sophie Ellis-Bextor

The singer tells us what it’s like being mum to her brood of boys – Sonny, 12, Kit, seven, Ray, four and ten-month-old Jesse

 Sophie Ellis Bextor

Did you always want to be a mum?
Definitely. Both my mother and grandmother had their first babies at 23, and I had a strong feeling that I’d become a mother at a relatively young age too. I was 25 when Sonny came along, and as I already had a successful career, I could afford to pay for help. I’ve always been aware of how very lucky I am.

Did you plan to have a big family?
I wanted three children, but then my husband Richard (bass player with The Feeling) and
I realised we had room in our hearts for another. It’s too soon to say whether we will have a fifth, but I keep an open mind. People assume I want to keep trying for a girl, but I am very happy with my boys. It’s pure comedy.

How are you coping with four children?
It’s certainly chaotic, and the house is always a mess. But you have to choose what you’re prepared to worry about. I’ve always been pretty relaxed, which helps. I also have a lot of family support, and Sonny is amazing with his baby brother. If I need to get on with things, he’ll sit Jesse on his knee and keep him entertained. He’s my secret weapon.

Who’s your biggest parenting influence?
My parents. When I was growing up, they were always encouraging, but they didn’t try to be my best friend, and there were clear boundaries. I could talk to them about anything, but there was a lot of respect too.

And most embarrassing mum moment?
Oh, there have been many! But one recent incident springs to mind. I was with one of my kids (I won’t say which one for fear of embarrassing him) at a park where they have huge inflatable balls you can sit in to float across the lake. They are, of course, transparent and once inside, my boy decided that he needed a wee. So he took off all his clothes and relieved himself as all the other parents looked on. I honestly didn’t know whether to laugh or to hide.

Sophie Ellis-Bextor is a supporter of Ovarian Cancer Action which funds research into finding innovative treatments
for the illness. Visit ovarian.org.uk or call 020 7380 1730. Sophie was talking to Lucy Benyon 

Read the full interview with Sophie in the October issue of Gurgle magazine, in stores September 1st.

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