Your baby this week
This week you may start to notice the first signs of little tantrums appearing.
You may witness your baby becoming cross if a toy is taken from him. or wriggling away from you as you dress him and making his feelings known. Tantrums won't really appear yet, but as your baby's independence grows, so does his frustration at not being able to do exactly what he wants. He may become cross and lose patience as he practises cruising or crawling but can't get to his toys quick enough. The best bet here is to be patient. Put yourself in your baby's shoes and imagine how much he wants that toy, or to crawl into the garden and how frustrating it must be when the door to the garden is shut, or he can't get to his favourite toy quick enough.
Tantrums can occur from 9 months onwards, and while the ages of one to two years are often peak tantrum time this doesn’t mean peace will break out once your child turns three. What does happen is that the reasons for the tantrums become more complex, and so often does the child’s behavior.
Here are some of the most common triggers of tantrums:
- Frustration at limited skills.
- Communication failure.
- Being denied something.
- Rebellion against authority or resentment at unfair treatment.
- Infringement of territory, usually by other children.
- Feeling ignored or marginalized.
Hunger, tiredness or feeling ill can also be catalysts in the tantrum process, but are rarely causes in their own right.