Your baby this week
Out of sight, out of mind no longer applies to your baby as her memory improves and she realises that you are hiding a piece of toast behind your back, or she works out which part of the room has all the television cables in it, which she loves to play with but is not allowed. It may also mean her ability to recognise when you are going out without her heightens as separation anxiety becomes more apparent. Now when she can't see you it sends her into a panic as she doesn't yet realise that you are coming back. Broach this situation carefully. Try not to sneak away when she's not looking, instead, let her see you go, but also make a big deal of coming back so she starts to realise you will come back! Separation anxiety is a frustrating period but it doesn't last. As your baby matures, so does her abilty to cope without you for longer stretches of time.
Dealing with goodbyes
As tempting as it is to creep away when your baby is distracted, try not to sneak away if you are going out and leaving your baby with a sitter or relative. Instead, let her see you go and play a waving and bye-bye game. Encourage the babysitter to bring your baby to the window to wave you off. The only way your baby will understand that you do come back is to watch you go.
When you return, say to your child, ‘Mummy’s back, I always come back’. If you are dropping your child off with a nanny, childminder or nursery and she is experiencing separation anxiety, make sure the caregivers/nursery teachers know this so they can have activities ready that will distract her. It might help if the nursery teacher comes and meets you at the gate carrying a fun activity that your child can do once inside.
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