They didn’t call it the terrible twos for nothing! By month 22 you will probably have experienced your fair share of tantrums in the supermarket, in the park, or typically when your in-laws are staying for the weekend. No matter how ‘perfect’ a parent you are, there isn’t much you can do to stop tantrums from happening. Your toddler is not being intentionally difficult or rebellious but has hit a stage that all toddlers hit, where he needs to express his urge for independent choice. This means that he will usually decide to do the opposite of what you want simply because it is his choice not yours.
Try to stay positive and don’t get too angry with him, this stage luckily does not last forever (although teenage years can seem similar!). Try to see this as an important developmental stage on the road to your child becoming independent from you, it can help to smooth over the worst of the tantrums.
By 22 months your toddler should be able to follow a simple command like ‘can you bring me your shoes please’ or ‘wait by the front door’. Don’t worry if commands still confuse your toddler as it may take him a little longer to grasp them. Mind what you say this month as from now on (and hopefully before now) you should be emphasising politeness and manners. This means no swearing in front of your child, remembering to say please and thank you and washing your hands before you eat. Your child is like a sponge and will absorb everything he hears you say so make sure you set a good example.
From cot to bed
You may be wondering when to move your toddler from his cot and into a proper bed. When your toddler is ready will generally be up to him, as he may grow too big for his cot and need more space at night. Many parents move their toddlers into cots when a new baby arrives as a natural progression but you make sure you make the move a few months before or a few months after the new baby arrives. Otherwise your toddler may see it as something else being taken away from him, as well as mum and dad’s attention.
This month you may be thinking about potty training. Most toddlers’ systems are mature enough by now to empty less frequently and can give your toddler cues for when he needs to visit the loo. Some toddlers are nowhere near ready at this point and forcing them to ‘train’ will make the process harder. Toilet training is something that takes time, effort and patience and certainly won’t happen overnight. Have a look at our Skills section for advice and tips on potty training.