Your toddler is 3 years and 9 months old


Month 45

Being shy

Your child is experiencing so many changes, with preschool, babysitters and everything that encompasses growing up. During these changes, you may notice your child developing a shyness. It could be at school, or at the playground or when they are being babysat. It may be hard as a parent to hear about your child acting defenceless, especially when you know they are generally not shy!

Your child will grow out of this shy phase; it just might take a little bit of time. Every child develops at different rates, and responds to changes differently. It is important to find ways to help your child to overcome this and helping them feel comfortable in their new environments.

Motor skills

Your child is growing up so fast! By 45 months your child should be able to learn how to fold a piece of paper three times and specify objects they are looking at or thinking about.

You may need to work with your child and showing them how to fold paper but you can also challenge them (once they have mastered folding paper) to make things out of the paper, like airplanes or other fun shapes! Your child’s vocabulary is growing very fast! By this stage they should be able to identify objects by using ‘this’ or ‘that’. It is important to remember that children will learn these skills at different rates.


As you are well aware, your child has a giant personality! You'll notice certain aspects about their personality that might irritate you every now and then. Getting them out of the door probably takes a lot of time because they want to examine everything they see in the world, or they have become fussy about which wellies they want to wear or which coat they prefer.

Be patient and try not to get annoyed (it only amps up their anxiety level). You may have also noticed that your child has a favourite outfit that they like to wear everyday. They do not care if it is dirty; they want to wear that same dress or same shirt night and day. As a parent this is up to you, you are the one that decides if your child will be allowed to do this. Be warned that you child will not like to be told what to do, they want to become more independent and like doing things by themselves. The other thing to remember is to choose your battles wisely! Is it really the worse thing in the world that your son wants to wear his Batman outfit to Sainsbury's? Save the arguments for situations that may need you to take a firmer hand.


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