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Me and my midwife

Midwife Tania Pearce explains the relationship between you and your midwife.

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babydream10
babydream10 8 months ago Newbie Chat
the same seems to keep coming up with community mw's! had a diff one this time but she kept me waiting 45mins then complained coz i couldn't stay for full booking in coz i had to do school run! like i was going to miss that for her!! that's bad Rachael it's neglect to not notice a condition and treat a patient accordingly, i would def be having that followed up! there is a midwife at the hospital this time that is lovely she's friendly and totally on the ball have seen her twice now and am praying she's there when i go into labour lol once had a much older mw on the ward after my last baby was born she was lovely and when i said i didn't drink tea and coffee she went off and found me some hot chocolate-she said "I want you to have a nice warm milky drink before bed love" so sweet she was :))
Aw that was gd of her. It's so sad to hear all these stories about community mw. Since I changed clinics I haven't had any major complaints bt I do still think there's a lack of support n information. My mws there's 4 of them will see whoever on that day never informs me of anything it's all based on me asking her questions. One I saw at 24 weeks asked if I plan to breastfeed n I said yes wd def lv to give it ago and she was bit funny about it n said well u av to ask for support n no point trying if u just suddenly stop. Then gave me a DVD to take home to watch bt didn't talk to me about it I understand she may not av the time but it's so stupid. Everything I've learnt is from books I dont av my mum around my partner mum adopted and dnt no lot ppl who ad kids bt they do just expect u to no things. Def sympathetic about waiting times im always kept waiting half a hour so least. Let's just hope the nhs care gets better x
tongueno6
tongueno6 8 months ago Newbie ChatPRO
i thought i liked my mw when i first meet her at ten weeks she seemed easy to talk didnt judge me n was there to help. boy was i wrong! about 15 to 16 weeks i started feeling down i wasnt working stuck in on my own all day n was bit emotional. i decided to go n see her at the local clinic expect when i got there the receptionist well 3 of them was stood there n rang throu to her. they turned round n said oh shes asking if its important as shes doing paper work. so i appologised n said i just wanted a quick word so they then passed the phone to me n she came on the phone n asked whats up. i then had 3 receptionist staring bk at me n i said i wd prefer to speak face to face if shes too busy can come bk. she then said what u want me to leave my paper work just to see u??ok fine then slamed the phone down! she then took me in the cleaning cubd no joke with the cleaner coming in every 5 mins. she was really horrible n said that it wasnt normal how i was feeling n thinks i should go n see someone. i told her i didnt think it was that extreme n she asked if i prev m/c which i did at 9 weeks. she then said look if u going to m/c u will i cant do nothing about it so y stress? i was horrifed!! i reported her n thankfuly we moved accross town n got in with better midwife who i see a number of them as its a community.i do find the midwifes r better at the hospital which is a shame when it should b ur own m.w.
the same seems to keep coming up with community mw's! had a diff one this time but she kept me waiting 45mins then complained coz i couldn't stay for full booking in coz i had to do school run! like i was going to miss that for her!! that's bad Rachael it's neglect to not notice a condition and treat a patient accordingly, i would def be having that followed up! there is a midwife at the hospital this time that is lovely she's friendly and totally on the ball have seen her twice now and am praying she's there when i go into labour lol once had a much older mw on the ward after my last baby was born she was lovely and when i said i didn't drink tea and coffee she went off and found me some hot chocolate-she said "I want you to have a nice warm milky drink before bed love" so sweet she was :))
tongueno6
tongueno6 8 months ago Newbie ChatPRO
i thought i liked my mw when i first meet her at ten weeks she seemed easy to talk didnt judge me n was there to help. boy was i wrong! about 15 to 16 weeks i started feeling down i wasnt working stuck in on my own all day n was bit emotional. i decided to go n see her at the local clinic expect when i got there the receptionist well 3 of them was stood there n rang throu to her. they turned round n said oh shes asking if its important as shes doing paper work. so i appologised n said i just wanted a quick word so they then passed the phone to me n she came on the phone n asked whats up. i then had 3 receptionist staring bk at me n i said i wd prefer to speak face to face if shes too busy can come bk. she then said what u want me to leave my paper work just to see u??ok fine then slamed the phone down! she then took me in the cleaning cubd no joke with the cleaner coming in every 5 mins. she was really horrible n said that it wasnt normal how i was feeling n thinks i should go n see someone. i told her i didnt think it was that extreme n she asked if i prev m/c which i did at 9 weeks. she then said look if u going to m/c u will i cant do nothing about it so y stress? i was horrifed!! i reported her n thankfuly we moved accross town n got in with better midwife who i see a number of them as its a community.i do find the midwifes r better at the hospital which is a shame when it should b ur own m.w.
i've had some similar experiences with community midwives and when i was having my last daughter i fell out with them and had all my maternity care at the hospital where i was booked in to have baby, the mw had complained that i didn't want the baby at the nearest hospital that she is linked to and said it made the paperwork harder!!! what utter rubbish she was a royal pain and unfortunately came out for my visit after the birth and was all nicey nice but i wasn't buying it, she had a student mw with her that was far better and i made of point of thanking the student and wishing her luck lol my hubby even said when she left "i didn't like her' and i hadn't even told him it was the one i had fallen out with lol pleased it wasn't just me! my mum did know it was her and gave her a frosty reception haha love my mum- she's always on my side :) pleased you reported her, i also told the hospital what had happened (at the time)and they suggested i could move all my care to them which the community mw had never told me! also i had SPD and needed a brace to help with walking and she told me i'd either have to go on a waiting list or buy one which hospital said wasn't true and went and got me one in 2 mins! she was so unhelpful and i hope i never see her again!
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