Billie Faiers reveals why she loves being a mum of two tots
TV Personality and ex-TOWIE star Billie Faiers chats about being mum to Nelly, four and Arthur, 19 months
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Describe birth in one word...
How did Arthur’s birth differ from Nelly’s?
They were very different. I was in labour for such a long time with Nelly, but Arthur arrived really quickly. With your second labour and birth you do know what to expect a bit more.
Did you have a birth plan?
I didn’t really. I tried to keep an open mind. With both of my babies I just went with the flow.
How did you find the early days with a baby and a toddler?
It was tough actually. People had told me everything changes when you have your second baby and it’s so true. At first Nelly was really jealous of Arthur – she’d been used to all of the attention and then suddenly she had to share us.
What do you get the most ‘mum guilt’ over?
I found juggling and splitting my attention between both of them hard in the beginning and I did feel guilty. When I first had Arthur, Nelly didn’t quite understand but she just knew things had changed. I’d be feeding him on the sofa and she’d demand that I put him down. At the time you feel like you’re dealing with some struggles forever, but looking back it’s only for a short time and then you all adjust.
Who’s your parenting inspiration?
My mum. I really leaned on her in the early days. In fact, when I had Nelly she moved in for two weeks and I remember crying when she left! We laugh about that now. I was one of the first out of my friends to have a baby so I didn’t have many people to ask advice from. Even my mum would question herself at times too because so much has changed since I was a baby.
Describe your parenting style…
I like to be organised and it stresses me out if I’m not. With the kids I wouldn’t say I’m strict, but I do have rules – I’m quite particular about teaching them manners and to be polite. Nelly has had meltdowns and tantrums, but she’s thankfully coming out of that phase now.
What does your partner Greg do better than you?
He just plays constantly and not much else! I’ll be multitasking – doing the washing, cleaning, cooking and working all at the same time as playing with them, but he just focuses on having fun which is nice. Sometimes Greg gets more excited than the kids and I have to shout down the stairs for them all to calm down.
What are bedtimes like in your house?
Every night, Arthur goes down at around 6.30pm and sleeps ’til 6am, so I can’t complain. Nelly on the other hand is still relentless at bedtime – four years on. She’ll use every trick in the book to avoid sleep. I tend to lie with her until she drops off and she then climbs into our bed every night at 2am. Now she’s at school she does get tired, so hopefully it will all change soon.
What’s the one attribute of yours that you’d love to pass on to your children?
My sense of humour. I’m always having fun with them – me pretending to be a dog that lies on the rug is our favourite game at the moment. It’s so silly but it really makes them laugh.
How has having children changed you?
It’s made me appreciative of the little things in life and a lot more sensitive too. I’m definitely way more emotional since having children.
What’s been your favourite ‘stage’ of motherhood so far?
I just love the newborn phase. When Arthur was first born I would lie down next to him and look at him for hours.
What is the best piece of parenting advice you’ve been given?
To trust your instincts. A mother’s instinct is usually always right.
What’s your ideal date night?
Sometimes Greg and I don’t even get half an hour to ourselves so even having dinner together at home, with a bit of peace, and without Nelly wanting to try our food, would be lovely!
Your top tip for a first time mum?
Give yourself a few days where no one comes to visit you apart from close family. Be at home, relax with your baby and enjoy every second. With Nelly, I had a constant stream of visitors from the minute I got home from hospital for the next three weeks – it was exhausting to sit and talk all day.
Would you like another baby?
Well, we’re moving house, we’re getting married, but after all that then potentially we could have another one. We’ve got plenty of time.
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