Parenting Q & A with the Three Day Nanny Kathryn Mewes
Well known as Channel 4’s Three Day Nanny, Kathryn Mewe's expertise covers baby sleep problems, eating and weaning, child behaviour and discipline.
How can I change my four-year old’s behaviour? I’m told he's an angel at school but naughty when he’s with me and his grandparents. He appears to still be jealous of his nine-month-old sister. Help!
At around 4 years old boys go through a huge hormone change. They experience a very big testosterone surge, causing them to be very strong willed, with signs of defiance. When speaking with your son, try and remember to be positive rather than confrontational, even when he is behaving badly. Please bend down so you are at his level and make eye contact. There is a general rule I tell parents with children aged 3 - 5 years old: "If their eyes are not watching, then their ears aren't listening!" Aim to involve him with his younger sibling. Give him responsibilities such as collecting the nappies or fetching toys. When your son is behaving, and I am sure there are times when he is, please say things to him such as: "I hope your sister is as good as you when she is 4" or "your sister is so lucky to have a brother like you". Remind him you are proud of him and remember that this hormone surge does settle down as they grow closer to the age of 5.
We’ve recently moved house and are doing lots of renovation work while living in the house with our two young daughters, aged eight months and two years old. We have certain rooms that are free from building work, but the dust and mess soon travels. Do you have any advice on how to keep mess and germs to a minimum? What are best and fastest ways to keep the house as hygienic as possible during building work?
What a coincidence! I am in the same situation as you with builders crawling all over my house. There is a part of me that says you have to accept the dust! I tend to vacuum at the end of each day when the house is 'child free' and damp dust with Milton Antibacterial Surface Wipes. They leave a great smell that I associate with a clean house.
Try to bear in mind that he works won't go on forever and I suggest you ignore the dust during the day and tackle it at the end of each day.
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