Precious moments: Frankie Bridge
The singer talks about life with sons Parker, two and Carter Seven months - and learning to go with the flow.
Did you always want to be a mum?
Yes. And I always wanted to get married and have children quite young. I think because I worked from such an earlyage I got to the point where I felt I’d done that and having a family was the next thing I wanted to achieve. Luckily I met Wayne and it all worked out.
Who’s your biggest parenting influence?
Both my parents always worked so we always had my nan and grandad around, and a lot of my childhood memories are of them. My parents were easy-going but I knew right from wrong, and when I was in trouble. But they didn’t mind having my friends over whenever – as long as they were polite. So I always had a busy, full house growing up and that’s how mine is now too. My sister doesn’t have children yet but I’m pushing her to.
Describe birth in one word.
Was it the same each time?
I had two C-sections, and was laid-back about the second as everything had gone perfectly the first time and you know what to expect – I felt more prepared mentally. But then with Carter my waters broke so I had contractions. It was scary but amazing at the same time.
You’ve talked openly about depression before you had children; how did you look after yourself once you were a mum?
I think it helped that I took everything in my stride and tried really hard not to put too much pressure on myself. That’s key. Most mums forget the hard parts and don’t always tell you about them – you’re expected to immediately fall head over heels in love with your baby, to know their cries. People say, ‘Oh, you’ll just know what your baby needs,’ but that’s not always the way. It took me weeks to learn what Parker needed, and in the early days you’re both just surviving.
What’s the best thing about being a mum?
The tiny things – when they’re giggling and laughing together; it sounds so cheesy but it’s true. When one laughs the other does, and I love that they’re so young yet like seeing each other laugh. That makes me excited for the future and that my two boys are happy.
And the best advice you’ve been given?
Not to take much notice of what everyone else is doing. In this age of social media, amazing as it is, you can look at others and think their life is perfect and they’ve got everything under control. We all know how kids can be – smiling one minute, throwing a tantrum the next – but it’s easy to forget if you’re looking at Instagram or Facebook. You have to remember what’s probably going on out of shot. It’s not always real.
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Read the full interview with Frankie in the June 2016 issue of Gurgle magazine, in stores now.