What can you do about gender disappointment?

What can you do about gender disappointment?

Gender disappointment is common and certainly nothing to be ashamed of. Here are some ways to deal with finding out you're not expecting the gender you wanted.

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I really, really wanted a daughter but have just discovered I’m expecting a boy. I’m devastated and my husband knows something is wrong, but I don’t feel able to discuss it with him – or anyone. What on earth can I do?

Gender disappointment is common and certainly nothing to be ashamed of – when we’re keen to conceive a particular gender and feel disappointed following that informative scan, it is hard to pretend otherwise. So the sensible solution is not to. Feelings will happen regardless, good or bad, happy or sad, so don’t be afraid to talk about them. That’s the first step; acknowledge and share how you feel, especially with your husband, so he can reassure and support you.

Secondly, ask yourself why it is that you were so keen to have a girl? Did you see yourself doing girly things with her and now fear hours standing at the side of a football pitch? If so, remember children don’t always grow up stereotypically and you may have a creative, arty boy who hates football.

Finally, trust that when your son arrives, with his individual character and traits, that you will love him regardless and all these feelings of discontent will vanish.

Teresa Tyler

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